The social retard needs advice again
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Thread Topic: The social retard needs advice again
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So there's this girl that I sort of grew up with (her name's Liz--I'm not gonna bother with fake names today)
Basically Liz's parents and mine were good friends before we were even born, and since her siblings were similar in age to mine, we used to hang out a lot when we were younger.
Problem is: Liz and I are very different, and always trying to one-up each other because that's what dickhead kids do, right? I was homeschooled and she was public schooled and we would argue and fight and judge other and all that nasty stuff.
Then things got more complicated when Liz started hanging out exclusively with my older sister, who would tell Liz all about what a horrible jerk I was (which I'm not denying at all because I was quite an ass back then...still am actually). So things have gotten really awkward between Liz and me over the past few years.
Anyway, long story short...
My family is going over to her family's house tonight, and she'll most likely be there. She and I have both mellowed over the years, but there's still plenty of tension and awkwardness every time I see her. She's really not a bad person, but I just feel super guilty for being such a dick for so long, and so that makes things weird.
All that being said, what should I do? How can I be more friendly and break the ice? Eye contact, small talk, sitting next to her...what's appropriate and what's not?? I'm a huge introvert so I kinda need pointers...
Sorry for being so needy. You guys are great :) -
When I want the Ice to break a friend,I would usually tell funny jokes to them,Invite them to hang out with me and have a water balloon war. But on a serious note,I would most likely questioned them if they have a problem and that I would listen to whatever they say and comfort them if needed. That's something I would do.
What's Appropriate:Be nice to them,Even If they're an ass. Show them that you're trustworthy by sticking up for them and listening to their story. Respond with POSTIVE comments. Give them a surprise party,Who doesn't love a good old party.
What's Not Appropriate: Never Judge Someone To Early. There could be a reason or a story to be told behind it. Don't Interrupt Something that's going one between her and your sister,Patience is Key. Don't get upset at her for no reason,without hearing her story. -
Wow, thank you so much. That actually really helped 😊
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No Problem. Just being a helpful wolf.
Let me know if my advice helped in making a friendship be born once more. -
Yeah, thanks!
It actually went much better than I expected. We got along great and there was absolutely no awkwardness at all. It really helped to go in with the mindset that I was going to be the one who opened up, instead of waiting for her to take the lead.
So we're not bffs or anything, but at least we're not mortal enemies at all =) -
Well, I'm a bit late to the advice party, but I'm glad it went well.
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Well, it truly was a gallant effort, my fine fellow. 👏🏼 👏🏼 👏🏼
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