Bullying
- Locked due to inactivity on Apr 28, '24 3:54am
Thread Topic: Bullying
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Hey so this this thread is for bullying and it’s not rlly me but like yeah. So my friend kinda tease me for liking this guy who’s name is Owen (not his real name for obvious reasons) and I just feel bad because I have a REALLY big crush on him and he doesn’t know it but all my friends say he’s ugly even when I think he’s cute and say I have bad taste in guys. I don’t know what to do about it because I know they’re joking but sometimes it doesn’t feel like it I just need so help if anyone can give it to me thx
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@BoldNotCold. I have been through a similar experience, so I hope this helps.
1. You can ignore them. I understand this can be hard, but you know he's not ugly, and that you don't have bad taste in boys so don't listen to people who say you do!
2. Don't speak to them about it, if they are going to tease you. You could find a friend that is happy to listen and won't tease you or if your comfortable I'm happy to listen.
3. Talk to your friends and say something like....
"Guys, I know your my friends but recently you've made me feel uncomfortable when I talk about 'Owen'. Just because we have different opinions on him and have different tastes doesn't mean you have to tease me for it. If I called your crush ugly and told you, that you had a bad taste in boys how would you feel?"
I hope this helps you. :) -
Thank you! This also happened with my other crush and I had a talk with my friend who we will call “Lily”. Lily always said things like “he’s not cute why do you like him” and it really hurt me I sent her a really long text explaining this and it hasn’t come up till now. It just kinda hurts you know anyways sorry if I’m rambling I’ll stop have a great day!
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No you are not rambling at all-I enjoy listening to people and I'm always happy to help. Have a great day to. It's the end of half-term for me, you?
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It’s summer here and so hot! We have 2 months of school!
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Yeah summer for us to, we have 35 days left at school when we go back!!
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We have another school year in 2 months
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Three months until my next school year
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Cool! Do you have any plans for your time off?
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Going on two different holidays, going to my friend's birthday celebration, definitely going to have some all-nighters with my besties, and not sure what else. Haha, you?
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Probably a trip to my grandparents in a few weeks. Hopefully hanging out with my bestie at her house. (If we do I hope I end my period today bc I am deathly afraid of tampons and she has a pool!) I might have a sleepover with some of my other friends from school. Oh and worrying about if my crush hates me or not bc he won’t text me. For background to the last one, I gave my crush my phone number and he couldn’t give me his (bc it was at the end of youth group and he didn’t have his phone) so he won’t text me and I reply like him so yeah that’s about it
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Okay, let's hope your crush likes you back, you end your period and you are able to go swimming whenever you want too :)
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Thx I ended it today and passed it on to my friend lol 😂 this always happens! I end and she gets it! It’s so funny 🤣
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I saw I can share my story here, and I'm gonna do that because I've never been able to talk about it without either feeling guilty or being interrupted by my family mentioning how their experiences were worse with bullies
In elementary school I had the nasty habit of picking my nose. A lot of kids noticed and in first grade they started a game I never forgot. If you touched me you had "the Emily touch" and you were contaminated. No one would hang out with you if you had the Emily touch that day. Kids started to avoid me and I only usually had one friend a year. It didn't bother me too much at the time because I only really played on the swings but eventually my school changed locations to merge all 3 elementaries in the town into one. Suddenly all the swings were occupied and anyone I used to hang out with was busy. Then kids started going out of their way to tell me how gross I was because I didn't know dental hygiene and my parents had to remind me to take showers because I've been forgetful all my life. Suddenly one of my friends from kindergarten started talking to me but I later learned it was to make fun of me I didn't know that until 6th grade though. By 4th grade people stopped doing the Emily touch stuff near me but they were still doing that behind my back. In fifth grade they played it in front of me again and it only got worse because my house was filled with roaches and I had lice. They played the Emily touch in the middle of class and in 6th grade it somehow got worse. I only ever got made fun of at that point and all I had in the way of friends was my backstabbing friend from kindergarten until the last quarter of the year and I'd started to get violent thoughts out of the sense of helplessness at some point in the year my aunt cut my hair and when I got back to school a group of girls chased me down the hall singing the dora the explorer theme song to make fun of me. In seventh grade I got friends but people started calling me roach girl I started thinking death wether it be my own or my classmates was going to be my only escape until finally, instead of getting any help from principals or teachers or the kids stopping the bullying my family just moved away and the lasting effects of this still haven't stopped. I can't talk to people anymore because of how bad it was and I now get nervous in public spaces. -
@Eggaly, I am so sorry you have too and have gone through this horrible experience. I have different school stages, but I'm pretty sure elementary ranges from 5-11, so particularly at the younger years many children do pick their noses, but it's a shame that you were singled out for it. Also there is no need to call you Roach girl. Everyone has different personal life experiences and most find it hard to share (get help) so well done to you. The advice I would give you is;
Try your best to ignore them-Don't get me wrong, I know this is extremely hard, but if you don't let it get to you emotionally they won't find it fun to tease you and be mean anymore.
2. This is not me telling you off- but please don't be violent! I completely understand the urge to punch a bully especially as you have been through a whole school-life of it, but being violent also makes you in the wrong.
3. If you can find enough courage- No, this isn't a dare or me forcing you to do something, but why don't instead of being violent, write a speech (or something like that) to get your point across. If you like that Idea I am happy to help. But, I know some people will laugh, but this way the teachers can also understand your problem and if you word it nicely you should find yourself with quite a lot of people wanting to be your friends.
I hope this helps :)
(If you are looking for advice at any time, I am in the England time zone so I can probably get back to you around 7:15 am and 8pmish-sometimes later. :))
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