Shrouded despair and forgotten ambitions
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Thread Topic: Shrouded despair and forgotten ambitions
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Sorry, I procrastinated a response lol
Thanks :)
Idk man, sometimes I have lots of spare time and I just can’t bring myself to do any of those things. I don’t think I’m burnt out because some days I can do those fine, but others it’s just so hard, yk? Idk it’s hard to explain -
My mum is tryna get me to drop out of therapy for some reason which I don’t think is a good idea at all
She doesn’t want me to get tested for anything either because she thinks I’m fine but like I don’t think I’m fine -
“Have some empathy”
Empathy for what you’re the one who wants to take me out of therapy -
uhm, what the f---, is my question-
why would she even suggest that??
and also, why would she not let you get tested for stuff?
i mean, i get it if it's concerning money, bc tests n stuff are expensive, but if it's just bc she doesn't want to/thinks you're okay, that's not okay-
and like, if therapy is helping you in any way, you should be allowed to keep going to it.
also also, the thing abt feeling burnt out some days and just not being able to do things sounds very similar to an adhd thing called executive dysfunction (dunno if yk what that is or not, but i figured i'd put it if you wanted to read it :)) and there's a bunch of different ways it can look, but specifically one i myself can relate to is the "i have to do this and that, and i have school work, and i have chores, and i want to do this-" but i'm sat on the couch doing nothing but scrolling on my phone.
it doesn't really mean you're lazy, it could just mean you're not sure where to start, or can't find that motivation, which is a real struggle for me- (maybe this is why i need to be taking my meds- haha, love me some adderall XD)
^ this may be a little off topic, but i thought i'd put it. you don't have to read it if you don't wanna :) -
The questionnaires to look for possibilities are completely free, which is why I’m so confused. Like why would she not want me to do it? Especially if I do end up having something
Thanks lol. I’ve had a few people tell me the burn out could be something else, but idrk lol. It’d make sense if I did have something, but since I’m undiagnosed I don’t think I’m gonna jump to conclusions lol. Thanks tho! -
It might be a thing where she's worried you'll use it as a crutch for things?? Or maybe she's just one of those people that act super weird about mental disorders, but you'd know that better than I do.
Burn out could be a lot of things, but it might just be that you need stimulation or a break from whatever schedule you're having atm. -
Idek, honestly. I think she just thinks it’s a teenage thing, like everyone’s going through this, it doesn’t really matter, etc. I think she’s just in denial, like she wants me to be okay, so she’ll force that onto me just so she doesn’t have to do anything about it. It’s what she does with a lot of things. Honestly if i did get diagnosed, she’d probably say she’s been through so much trauma by it (like what she’s done with my sister’s condition)
Probably. I’m on holidays for another week, so that might help, but I haven’t been able to bring myself to do much honestly -
In that case, maybe have your therapist tell her what they think is going on. Hopefully it won't seem like your therapist just wants money or something, especially since the test is free. That's weird tho, but my mom does the same thing sometimes, so I can't say too much about it lol (bro I heard about that, that's freaking insane)
That's fair, I think that's fairly normal though, I mean, I'm doing the same thing atm lol -
The only problem with that is that my therapist is on leave :’) she won’t be back until mid-october, and I can always talk to someone else, but I don’t really want to start again for only one session. And the place I go to therapy only provides the questionnaires, not the tests, which sucks. (Yeah, it’s super weird lol)
Fair enough lol -
Ohhhhh damn man... Do you have her contact info at all? Ohhhhh I didn't know that, my bad, but even then wouldn't your mom be able to see that somethings up? (dude that's wild)
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We have her email, and I’m tryna get my mum to email her before she comes back to say she can do it. You’re all good lol, and idek. She thinks I’m completely okay and that I don’t need it, and she’s been going on about it for a while. It’s just.. why take away the only person I can talk to about stuff like this?
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Ok, that's good at least. Is it an economic thing? (obviously you don't have to answer that lol) I just don't know why she'd be so pushy about that if you've made your thoughts clear... Yeah no, tell her that, if you're comfortable. Maybe tell her that this is someone you trust, and that even if you quit for just a little bit and want to find a therapist again later, that it's unlikely you'd wind up with this therapist again, or something like that.
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I don’t think it’s an economic thing, but I may be wrong lol. Most healthcare here is free so stuff for my sister doesn’t cost much, just medication top ups, so we haven’t lost that much money. She refuses to tell me why she doesn’t want to do it. I will lol, thanks
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Okok, makes sense lol. Huh, weird. No problem! Ik from experience that finding a new therapist can be rough, so I don't want it happening when it could be avoided lol
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Yeah lol. Thanks, I’ll deffo talk to her about it later
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