Belittlement and exclusion on GTQ
- Locked due to inactivity on May 29, '22 3:54am
Thread Topic: Belittlement and exclusion on GTQ
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I try to make people feel included when I can, and am I'm sorry if I ever came off in any way as exclusive. I'm not on here often, and barely interact. I'm anti-social irl, and that seems to also be the case online. Everyone online so far has been really nice to me despite this, and made me feel welcomed. :) I happen to not interact much, but this has nothing to do with feeling excluded/unwelcomed.
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I also wanna let y’all know (this is Cham), that I really love it when people just come into my thread to talk. I understand that I lot of the time I’m kinda ranting and commenting on things, but if you even say “hi” in my thread, I will literally DROP everything I’m doing to talk to you.
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I'm with Cham. I'm not sure how long I'll be around, but if anyone sees me posting and wants to talk, I am always happy to talk to those who approach me. I just suck at remembering to respond 90% of the time, lol
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I only ask that you tell me if you’re gonna leave, because I’ll be straight up SCARED of posting if I’m not sure if y’all are gone or still talking to me. -
Thanks y'all, I'll keep that in mind. That's how it is with my thread(s) too.
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Ok! I just remember this one user getting so pissed off at me for talking to them in their thread, so idk if y’all want me to talk to you lol
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I think that the easiest way to avoid confrontation like that is to double check the subtitle, first page of a thread, or the most recent posts (depending on the situation). Anyone who has requested privacy seems to mention it somewhere in those areas. If they didn't make it clear, then it's on them, since there's no way you could have known /gen
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I agree with all of you! I did notice a couple users get mad at people for talking in their threads and then be upset that no one was their friend and I thought that was a strange dichotomy. You can't have it both ways! Youre allowed to have private threads but you should also make public ones if you want people to actually interact with you lol
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Agreed. It feels like users are scared of leaving their little friend groups, because of whatever reason. I mean honestly though, what makes y’all hesitate from reaching out to talk to other users?
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I used to have lots of friends here on gtq, now I feel alone when I'm here and my threads are usually ignored even if they're supposed to be fun and interactive plus I never seem to talk to my old friends
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Well I personally would love to be your friend, eggaly! I don't see you on gtq very often but I'd love to get to know you better
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For me it's just that I'm not nearly as outgoing as I used to be, so it's hard to approach people these days. That plus the possibility that someone'll get mad at me just for trying to talk to them in their thread makes it hard to want to approach people. I come from a time where things were the opposite, not only was privacy not assumed but even if you made it clear a thread was private some people would just not care. I do like that that has generally changed but it's gone so far in the other direction I'm often afraid to even say hi to people I haven't talked to much.
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@eggs- hey, I still really love talking to you. I don’t see you come on often. I want you to know that I see your threads, but by the time I’m online I feel like I’m too late to join in. I’m really sorry for not being the friend that you need
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It was very different back in circa 2015. People would just show up in your friend and half the time the conversation was completely useless but it didn't matter because it made you feel cared for. Random culture was still pretty prevenient back then but it was fun.. no one took themselves too seriously. Like I said to The1forU, there were definitely bad aspects to it, like people would make up stories for attention and it seemed like grand gestures and emotional outrage were more prevalent so I'm glad that has changed, however I can't help but wonder if we've become so reclusive that it's becoming a detriment, like Alek said.
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I don’t know why everyone’s starting to become very solitary. Like Mint said, it’s definitely hurting people.
When I start becoming quieter and isolated from people here, those times where I’m just venting for hours on end. I remind myself that this is a forum, and not the place where I should act as if users are toxic or something. GTQ is not mine, and I shouldn’t shut others out for trying to talk to me.
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