Belittlement and exclusion on GTQ
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Thread Topic: Belittlement and exclusion on GTQ
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Exactly
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Also I kinda tip toed around it because I was really working through my feelings about it but I hope you know I still consider you a friend, Alex! I never meant to ignore you I am just struggling to find the correct balance for me moving forward because of our past since my life is very different than it was in the past.
Still consider you a good friend and am glad you're still on the site and we were able to get some closure. -
I'm fine for anyone to approach me p much.
But I don't go out of my way to visit threads either because I think part of me understands that I'm an adult and not every kid on here is going to feel super relaxed and comfortable talking to some random 20 yr old . So I don't want to invade their thread and make it awkward bc like ew why is this big adult who is also a mod suddenly coming to talk to me what have i done what do they want. But with that being said, I've said it multiple times but I'm chill to have a conversation w like anybody on here p much and I'm totally open to being friends w ppl here shrug shrug . Ain't bother me -
Yeah...to be fair I've tiptoed around it too. I consider you a friend as well, a very good one at that, if I may. And I do mean "if I may", I totally understand if that's uncomfortable. I go to that extent because I would not be the person I am now at all had I not met you, I would have been a lot worse off. I'm glad we were able to get some closure, too. I hope we can really properly talk this out. I'll be ready whenever you may be. I apologize if this, or anything else I say these days sounds...cold. And that goes for anyone looking to talk to me, too. That's just how I am now. Probably another reason I'm always just off in my corner.
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Thank you! You know where to find me..discord, gtq friends..if you ever need to PM me I'm available.
No weird feelings! Being a teenage sucks and it's weird and we went through some pretty traumatic things together. I really value those experiences and I learned a lot through it. I'm still a huge music nerd so if you ever wanna talk bands or whatever I'm here lol -
I believe I have seen you on the discord, probably would there. The same goes to you.
100% agreed, I do and have too. Hell yeah, sounds awesome -
Alright. When I joined originally, it was 2020 and if anyone was the bully it was me honestly. It like got worse and better and worse and better and as far as social ranking goes, I don’t know where my standing is on it but wherever it is I probably clawed my way up there in the beginning. Which is exactly why we don’t talk about the beginning- I mean I was 12 for sky’s sake. I don’t know the exact point where I got better, but even then I was never able to find a true discrimination. I just talked to everyone and shared my opinions with everyone and if someone didn’t like them I basically told them to piss off. Now, after having both short and long periods of temporary hiatus, I come back every so often and see slight changes that I never noticed before. People… generally stick to their little cliques I suppose. The older users stay together. The younger users stay together but some have split still, mostly based on simply when they joined I suppose. And, true as it is, most of the users around different time periods have been through hell and back with each other, and that does build a bond. But we should all interact with each other at some point, eh?
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Adding onto Aspen’s point:
Inside jokes and humor make a conversation thrive, because both people can let loose and kind of just joke around. It’s easier to do this with people in your age group, because your jokes are gonna be a little more relatable and yeah.
I feel like joking with users outside of your age group gets really weird. For older users, making jokes with younger users definitely sounds a little weird. And the other way around.
I don’t know what to do with that since acknowledging it makes it more awkward 😭 -
Mhm! Sometimes there are certain friend groups that people tend to be more comfortable around, and I'm really lucky that Tat and Rayne adopted me as a newbie because I was kind of avoided when I first came here lol
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Alsx-
Yess! Thank you!
Aspen-
I didn't know you during your younger phase so I have no negative opinion on you! You seem super cool and talented and I love hearing your opinion on things..I'm personally glad you're still an active member and didn't let past experiences get you down.
Cham-
I like to make threads that are inviting for all ages for this very reason. Sometimes it's unrealistic to expect different ages to have conversations on the same level but if we're talking about something that everyone can universally have an opinion on or be involved in then it gives everyone a chance to interact on even ground. -
I feel like the main reason why there is generally exclusion of new users is because they tend to be very young. When I first joined, I was very immature and generally kind of annoying
still am honestly lolwhich can be a bit irritating for an old timer. Especially because newbies are typically quite curious which can come off as nosy and generally aren't familiar with the rules and manners here. Also sometimes there's suspicion that they are alts, which leads to a distressing amount of accusations and possibly "interrogations", and yes, I was accused of being Tat and Rayne's alt lol -
I'm open to talking to people if they make actual efforts to talk to me, but I dislike small talk, please don't approach me with small talk.
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Of course ^_^ Hey, while we're here, there's something I've been meaning to ask you
I've definitely observed a lot of that as well. There is a sort of etiquette here, where it feels weird when newbies don't follow it. It's not surprising, they can't, they don't know to. But it does feel weird to anyone who's not also new. -
What is it?
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What would you want me to call you these days? My instinct is of course to call you what I used to, but I understand if that's uncomfortable for you, so I wanted to ask about it.
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