Were gonna have a good day
Thread Topic: Were gonna have a good day
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Lauren loveless is my absolute favorite person
she’s 5’1 but looks so tall because of her build and I aspire to be that way -
youre gonna go far is such a pretty song
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so pack up your car put a hand on ur heart
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barbie movie i need to see it right away everybody on tiktok is going on about it and i need to join in brb
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smt happened w my brother brbs watching tiktoks about anti-misogynistic views
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"why are men expected to deal with female hormones, but women won't accept men's hormones?"
"because when our hormones act up, a good nap or some food will fix it. when your hormones act up, we end up in your goddamn fridge"
ate that up -
"when gay men think they're immune to being misogynistic because they're gay"
i should send this to my brother with no context -
omg the new wish movie looks so pretty???
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only reason I said I didn’t like minari was because bits of it were a little personal and I loved it but hated it so much that I cried afterwards
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Ok my issue rn with people on tiktok is that they’re all talking about “old love” as if love ever really changes. No, love never changes. Love is love, no matter what time period you’re in.
And it’s like an excuse for them, like “oh I’m a hopeless romantic, love was so much better back then”
Sure, maybe guys did more “gentlemanly” things back then, like getting flowers and stuff, but guys now do that too. You just don’t have a person in ur life like that, but neither did a woman back in the 1960s.
And if you just show people the good parts about love in the 1900s, and you exclude misogyny, abuse, and more, then you give people a false sense of what love back then was.
I bet in the future sometime, people will be like “oh I want 2000s love so badly” -
Also people need to realize that it’s not a green flag if a guy wants kids
The guy doesn’t have to push a baby out, feel bloated, feel sick, go through 9 months of hell, or even breastfeed the baby after it’s born.
So why does everybody go crazy when a guy wants kids? Because all he has to do is stick his thing in a woman’s thing, and then a baby in conceived. While maybe being helpful along the way of helping the mother out, that man is never going to experience childbirth, or carrying a child in your stomach.
Not to mention they don’t go through any physical changes themselves. Their bellies don’t swell up to the size of watermelons -
I just came back from the Barbie movie
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And I wanna be honest, the message of the movie was beyond beautiful, the cast was amazing, the set design, choreography, and the music was great, but there were some moments where I didn’t understand why it was hyped up so much. The movie just didn’t seem as impactful as it could have been, which makes me a little upset because everybody has talked about it as a life changing thing but I kind of had to force myself into that mindset (which would have been easier to get to if the movie had been smoother).
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but personally I don’t know if I want to critique it because it had such an impact on other people that I don’t really care to say anything
But I will say a few things -
1. There’s a scene where they talk about how young girls in the real world see Barbie as an impossible beauty standard, rather than a woman who could lead any life that she wanted to. And I wanted them to touch on that idea more, since it didn’t feel complete, and would have been very impactful to girls my age who struggle with the constant feeling of not being pretty enough. It also ties into the patriarchy vs. matriarchy idea, because a big reason that girls feel like they’re never beautiful enough is because guys will tell us that. Also, in the movie, girls in the real world never feel better about their body image. Barbie is so distraught when she finds out that young girls only see her as an impossible physical standard and not a woman who can do anything, but never corrects their perception of her. So while Barbie may have achieved an ending that lets her be human and everything, it wasn’t very characteristic of her because why did she care so much about how girls thought of her but then didn’t do anything about it? And clearly, she cares what girls think because they’re who Barbie was made for, but she never helps them in the end.
2. The portrayal of men wasn’t really fair. I felt like every man in the movie had no depth, and they were so unlike men in reality that i felt like a man watching the moving would have a harder time understanding the actual theme. Obviously there are scenes were men are perfectly realistic, like when Barbie is being catcalled and hit on, but other than that, every main male character is incompetent and poses no real threat to Barbie.
3. Like the one before, I feel like this movie was for the girls, but needed to be for everyone. I love how in America Ferrera’s character’s speech, she points out everything that women go through on a daily basis. And she goes on to list things like: being good but not being good enough. Here’s the full speech.
It is literally impossible to be a woman. You are so beautiful, and so smart, and it kills me that you don’t think you’re good enough. Like, we have to always be extraordinary, but somehow we’re always doing it wrong.
You have to be thin, but not too thin. And you can never say you want to be thin. You have to say you want to be healthy, but also you have to be thin. You have to have money, but you can’t ask for money because that’s crass. You have to be a boss, but you can’t be mean. You have to lead, but you can’t squash other people’s ideas. You’re supposed to love being a mother, but don’t talk about your kids all the damn time. You have to be a career woman, but also always be looking out for other people. You have to answer for men’s bad behavior, which is insane, but if you point that out, you’re accused of complaining.
You’re supposed to stay pretty for men, but not so pretty that you tempt them too much or that you threaten other women because you’re supposed to be a part of the sisterhood. But always stand out and always be grateful. But never forget that the system is rigged. So find a way to acknowledge that but also always be grateful. You have to never get old, never be rude, never show off, never be selfish, never fall down, never fail, never show fear, never get out of line. It’s too hard! It’s too contradictory and nobody gives you a medal or says thank you! And it turns out in fact that not only are you doing everything wrong, but also everything is your fault.
I’m just so tired of watching myself and every single other woman tie herself into knots so that people will like us. And if all of that is also true for a doll just representing women, then I don’t even know.
First of all, it was such a relief to see everything that other women and I were experiencing on the daily. It brought up so many things that we just don’t talk about, because we feel like that’s just the way things are. It made me realize that women are made to feel this way by men and even some other women, we’re not naturally this scared of just living. I loved the representation of this idea of always being self conscious, and especially when Barbie enters the real world, she’s immediately hit by it. She doesn’t even know how to describe it, because it’s just something that a patriarchy makes a woman feel.
I think the movie was so good at comforting women and telling them that they can do anything, in the least corny way possible, and that they do not need to adhere to the ridiculous standards that the patriarchy has for them. I love that because it opened my eyes. But the only reason I was able to resonate with that speech was because that’s what I went through everyday. It’s what all women go through everyday, whether we know it or not. But I feel like if I was a man watching it, I would obviously be a little tender to it because the speech is so strong and passionate and it would make me sympathize for women, but it wouldn’t understand my own fault and role in those expectations for women. I just felt like the movie was meant for girls in the way that it empowered us and brought all these stupid standards to the surface, made us realize that all women are in this together. But I don’t think it did a great job of getting the rest of the world to understand women.
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