I'm creeped out because I'm straight
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Thread Topic: I'm creeped out because I'm straight
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So one of my best friends is a lesbian. She makes it so obvious that she has a big crush on me. One time she came out to me and said, "I love you." in the most creepiest way ever and walks off with a blushing face.
I'm straight and I don't understand how I can like my own gender. Thing is, recently she's been treating me way TOO friendly. Once she tried to hold my hand at the school dance and I pushed it away gently, trying not to be rude. She even admitted she has a crush on me. I have a boyfriend and she's really jealous of him. She tries to break us up like pointing out his flaws. Once she went up to my boyfriend and said, "I hate how you're going out with Kirby".
I feel like her having a crush on me has effected our friendship. I feel so creeped out that I now avoid her and stopped hanging out with her. I guess I'm just not used to this whole lesbian thing because I'm straight. What should I do? She looks so hurt every time I avoid/not hang out with her...Most of my guy friends have a crush on me. I don't mind them because... well, it's hard to explain. I'm just not used to girls having crush on me o.O I feel guilty for hurting her silently (avoiding). Should I continue or try to see her the same way again?
PS: I have all respect for gay/lesbian/bi people. I just feel very uncomfortable if a lesbian likes me in that way. -
Why not just talk to her? :)
Kindly explain how you feel and let her down easy. She's your friend right? If this is effecting your friendship, and she wants to keep it, she'll know she needs to stop.
If she doesn't understand, tell her you can't continue being friends until she agrees to work this out with you.
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My friend, who is a lesbian, openly let me know that she had a crush on me.
Didn't change anything between us.
The difference between yours and my relationship is that she's not respecting your personal space. She shouldn't be trying to mess with your relationship and happiness. You need to talk to her about this and set some boundaries or something, or else shit'll go down. -
yours and my situation***
fricklesdurg. -
Tingy, you never fail in making me laugh. XD
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I agree with these two. There needs to be boundaries. If you've told her you don't feel the same way, that should be enough for her. If she truly cares about you and your friendship she'll need to accept this. I know it's hard to turn people down and hurt them, but you have to honest and firm. I hope it works out between you two and you can remain friends. .3.
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Thanks everyone :3
I did today.
She denied that she ever even liked me in the lesbian way e.e But I know she's lying. She knows she's lying. She's just trying to get out of the situation because she's been confronted. Now that I've dropped the nice act, she's been leaving my relationship with my boyfriend alone :3 Yay. We're still friends, though. We just don't talk/or hang out as much as we used to. Thank you everyone yet again~ -
You're welcome! :3
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Good for you, I'm glad you confronted her about it. My friend had that same problem, but she doesnt have a boyfriend and the chick was a whore... like my friend said she was afraid to have sleepovers with this chick cuz she'd get raped.
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