Help!
- Locked due to inactivity on Aug 4, '16 4:17pm
Thread Topic: Help!
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I read everything. We keep telling you, YOU MESSED UP. And the only solution we keep telling you is, LEAVE THE FAMILY ALONE!!
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hackerr Newbiei mean a solution to make up with my friends mother
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No, you don't understand, yet again. If you want things to cool down, you listen to the mother and DON'T visit the daughter.
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Okay, you better read this clearly because I am bolding out these words for you just so you can actually understand the big picture here, it takes time to make up for something like that. So I suggest you LEAVE THE FAMILY ALONE AND NOT DO ANYTHING. Okay? Got that? Seriously, just don't say or do anything. STAY OUT OF IT.
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hackerr Newbie*sigh* if u had read u would have known that i HAVE left them lone. for about a week.
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Good, time flies and it will all be forgotten so don't do something like that again.
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hackerr Newbiehow long should i wait though? and when the waiting is over what should i do then?
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U will have to wait for a very long time (honestly i dont know how long, all i know is very long) , parents dont forget that easily, speacilly if it involves their daughter... And then u should apologise to the mom, face to face...
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It's a big deal to wait, just let it go. And when you think things are okay now, don't ruin it with your big mouth again.
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*it's NOT a big deal to wait
Curse you typos -_- -
hackerr Newbielol, thanks for the help even though there were some misunderstandings at first.
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xD
You hurt your friend's Mom's ego: she wouldn't expect it.
Second, part of this is your fault...sorry.
Third, you seriously, SERIOUSLY contradict yourself. If you want to seem mature, type 'I' instead of 'i', speak English, not txt-tlk, and please, for the love of God, BE CONSISTENT IN YOUR WRITING! I don't mean to sound rude, but your lack of grammar made you look like an idiot teenager.
Now, send her a message. And in this one, say something along these lines. Try to keep the format too, or you're going to seems tupid again.
Dear Mrs.*********,
I must apologize: from the beginnning, I though I was doing the right thing. I thought it would be appropriate to be curious, and address you through Facebook, considering I don't see you in person very often.
I now realize that I was wrong: it was quite rude of me to address you in such a manner. I'm sorry. I wasn't raised to insult my elders, and I tried not to. If, by chance, you were indeed insulting, please accept my sincere apologies. I never intended to insult you or question your parenting techniques.
I was simply curious and thought it would be fine to ask you a simple question, but as it turns out, my question offended you. This, again, is because of my lack of respect, and I'm very, very sorry.
Please, understand that this will not happen again. I'm very sorry for the trouble I might have caused and will take the consequences without complain. Again, I apologize for my actions. They were uncalled for and disrespectful.
Thank you for understanding and if not, that's fine. I deserve it.
Sincerely,
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WIN NIKKI WIN.
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I agree with Nikki. But- I do not believe it is entirely your fault. You didn't know! However, using proper grammar would have helped tour case. It probably would have been best to discontinue the discussion sooner, apologize and drop the subject rather than press on. Face to face chat is usually the best way to sort things out.
The friend's mom probably shouldn't have reacted the way she did. However rude the message was, she definitely should have replied, at least to the first message. Fire and fire only gets you burnt. I think she also overreacted a LOT over 'that word'. You're 17!! (or so you say) Almost every teen I know swears! But you shouldn't have said that to an adult; they take offense easily.
So basically, what I think happened was:
You ask mom (fine)
Mom says no (fine)
You ask why (the W word is a big no no with parents even though it should be fine)
Mom doesn't answer (rude)
Friend tells you mom thought you were rude (where's the explanation? Without it, how will you improve?)
You ask mom why you were rude (remember what I said about face to face? Use it)
Whole fiasco begins (I'm too lazy to put it all)
In conclusion. You all made mistakes, but the mother isn't willing to admit her wrongs. Give the situation time, and maybe after a while, take it slow, and let her mom know with subtle hints and heartfelt apologies that you are sorry. Don't blame her for anything, don't push your luck. Talk to your friend (if you can) about it, but only after a while or so. Next time, know when to drop the subject and move on. -
It doesn't matter if your parents let you keep asking why why why, you shouldn't be questioning friends' parents on their decisions. A 17-year-old boy isn't going to calm their concerns, got it? Even if was a bummer that you could work out with your friend doesn't give you the right to get between her and her parents. That's wrong, Mr. Mature. Can't you see what unfair position your friend is in? She's trying to be a good daughter to her parents while being a good friend to you. You should have not made her basically choose between you and them like that.
Secondly, if you were really curious and wanted to get a better idea you should have politely talked to them face to face. I don't know if you realized this but teenagers are in fact supposed to be respectful to adults, as in, not challenging them and demanding an answer. They owe you nothing, they're not even your parents. If you really wanted to show maturity you wouldn't had been trying to take on adults as if you were their complete equal.
Now I understand you want a solution to your problems, and yeah waiting and apologizing are good. But the best positive to take away from this is to realize your place as a minor, and to at least ask questions and talks face to face, politely.
By the way I'm 16.
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