Controversial Opinion
- Locked due to inactivity on May 29, '22 3:54am
Thread Topic: Controversial Opinion
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Honestly, and this is just an opinion, I think that what ever you say you are or what ever you literally are or your preferences is not your full personality. If I am a boy, does that mean that that is all that should be known about me? No! Your gender identity has nothing to do with your personality. If I am a boy, does that mean I am dumb, a risk-taker, aggressive, or senseless? Heck no! I am tired of people saying “oh, you are crying, that means you identify as a girl!” Or, “you like sewing? Are you gay?” Or, “you are not strong, does that make you a girl?” Or even, “you are so sweet! You must identify as a girl or have the sexuality of a girl!”. I am sorry if this is taken offensive in any way, but your gender is NOT who you are. It is, and should only be your identity and/or preferences.
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Bvian, honey, I think you may have missed the mark here
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@The1ForU 2
For your own sake, I would have suggested for you to stay out of this conversation -
Gender isn't your whole identity, but no one here is saying that's the case. Whether you want to admit it or not, someone's gender is a part of their identity. It tailors their experiences in life and affects how other people interact with them. And it can be really important to a person that's spent a lot of their life being referred to incorrectly.
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The thing is being homophobic does actively hurt people
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@PointlessDreams
I'm interested, please explain -
Im in town rn, but I'll elaborate when I get home
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I can't wait to hear what you have to say. And to be clear, were discussing homophobic beliefs without trying to force them on others, right?
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Only partially related to the discussion at hand, but I want to make it clear that today, nobody "[attacked] or [demeaned]" any user. The few interactions that went down were respectful on both sides. I feel that you made this thread with the sole intention of inciting a reaction, and you may want to rethink your actions.
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You know you'd lose friends for your s---ty take, and that's what you're trying to avoid.
Felt like an attack, maybe I'm wrong. -
Not an attack, just the truth. This community is VERY queer lol
I wouldn't want to be friends with someone who thinks homiphobia is okay -
Here's a slightly different take. I'm very much into girls and boys equally but I don't consider myself LGBT. I'm bisexual/pan and my fiance is gender fluid, but I try not to align myself with any community because I don't want them to speak for me.
I respect everyone even if I disagree with them because I realize that we all come from different backgrounds and our cultures will widely affect how we view others.
Some people think that if you're gay you'll suffer for eternity so they don't support it because they genuinely believe that supporting it means they're supporting your eternal suffering. That doesn't mean their opinions are correct and they can totally be insensitive and cruel but I get that from their perspective they genuinely think they're doing you a favor. They have been indoctrinated so it would be wrong of me to say I hate them for something they've been brainwashed to believe.
This is coming from someone who was excommunicated from my family and friends for going against my parents religion. I disagree with their decisions to kick me out "because god told them to." I think it was totally wrong and really hurt me. It hurt me to be told that "we know you'll come back to God. " And that " god told me that who you are isn't who you're supposed to be and you're not supposed to be with the person you love." I thought that was totally wrong and very disrespectful to my existence, but even still in spite of all of the hardships I experienced I still respect religion because I know that my family did it from what they thought was love, even if their idea of love is perverted by their beliefs.
I'm not OP. just wanted to share my opinion.. I'm still pretty confused and dealing with the repercussions of abuse and brainwashing though so my opinion is constantly changing! Maybe I'm in the wrong but I just don't want to live a bitter life. I just want to be compassionate and understanding even to those who have wronged me. -
[[Mint, that is an understandable stance but what op and it seems you have also missed /nm
Is none of us are angry or attacking anyone.
We simply have put up boundaries.
I.e some people don't want interaction at all some want limitied interactions others are allowing interactions with except etc etc ]] -
You guys might not believe me but I still live with my family cause I'm a minor and I'm the "evil, gay, rebellious, hell-bound kid" where I'm from
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My point was that the timing of your initial post made it seem like you were jumping to defend someone who had been wronged, when in reality, that wasn't the case. That's all I was trying to say. That being said, I do think you should take the time to reassess what has been said throughout this thread. A lot of valid points have been made, and I expect more will follow.
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