how do I tell someone I can't commit to something
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Thread Topic: how do I tell someone I can't commit to something
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I started an RP with someone last night and the anxiety I feel even thinking about the commitment this will require makes my skin crawl
Obviously I'm bad at committing to a lot of things, hence my "return", but I digress
my first instinct is just to block her without saying anything so I don't have to face the backlash but that would be a really s---ty thing to do
but I am d r e a d i n g the confrontation of telling her I can't go through with this since, like I said, we started this last night
how can I explain this to her? how can I word this? do I just have to bite the bullet and face her response like a man? pls say no I am weak -
tbh if someone wanted to quit rp'ing bc they're afraid of commitment I'd rather they tell me upfront and be genuine/honest rather than blocking and disappearing?
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well obviously
but how do you even tell someone something like that
like, the day after
I could just force myself to go through with it but that wouldn't be a good experience for either of us
I guess I just have to work up the courage and give it to her straight orz -
*go through with it meaning doing the RP
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"I know that we just started this yesterday, and I thought that I'd be able to go through with this. However, I'm not feeling up to roleplaying due to commitment issues.... and it took me an entire day to come to this conclusion. I'm really sorry about this and I hope you can forgive me."
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hahahaaaaa
I messaged her, but something different and she was really nice and understanding
okay okay sorry for clogging up the forums with this needless post I just got really anxious for like ten minutes for nothing fml -
hey that's good!!
the forums could use more clogging imo
glad everything was resolved -
The forums are pretty dead, somewhat because everyone prefers to stay in their own threads. Which is understandable! It's nice to just have a personal diary-like place where you can vent your feelings and feel like maybe someone will care enough to read, right? That's the pull of this place, because it's just secluded enough that you don't really have to worry about IRL friends and family finding it, but you also have a sense of importance, the feeling that someone somewhere will care enough to read and perhaps comment on your thoughts. That's why it's so addictive and that's why so many people just stay in their personal threads.
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you just described GTQ in a nutshell lol
i would make a new thread every day but I've noticed either me or others have a hard time keeping up w/convos so -
Not to mention how embarrassing it is when the site is super dead and the thread you made stays on the first page for like a week with zero replies lMAo
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