Speak, friend, and enter.
Thread Topic: Speak, friend, and enter.
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Lol thanks
And ya I came here when I was 16 so it's been a minute 😠-
I want to make peace despite how much she's hurt me, but dang she won't even let me call her. I'm done believing the "I'm too busy today" and "maybe later." I will never be close friends again with someone who doesn't bother to even give you 5 min. But I want to reach out with kindness just to stop the rudeness. Just to end the awkwardness for our families. Just so everyone who knows us doesn't have to feel like they can't talk to each other. That's not fair for them.
We were best friends for 8 years, broke off our friendship a month ago, and she didn't invite me to her wedding, or even let me call her today on her wedding day. I understand she's hurt, but I also think she could have put that aside so that whenever she looks back, she wouldn't have regret about not having me there in any way at all. She told me she would always love me, but I can't help but think the way she's treating me is anything but loving. She and everyone on her side treat me as though I don't exist. My mom has done everything for her family, and they don't even invite her. None of her family have reached out to ask how I'm doing. And these people were all in my wedding. Her sister's were my bridesmaids. Her father was the officiant. They were all family.
And they all despise me. -
The reason we're not friends? I told her I thought she was moving too fast with her boyfriend (who she marries today despite only knowing him for 5 months), she told me I was being judgemental, and that I had no right to speak my opinion over her relationship. She told me to back off and shut up. I said I should have the right to be honest, that I said what I did because I was concerned for her. She says I do not have the right to be honest if I'm being hurtful. I said I was not trying to be hurtful. So she will not be friends with someone who she feels is always judging her, and I will not be friends with someone who just wants a cheerleader. I don't think she has to listen or agree with my opinions, but I believe the kind thing to do is to be honest. And so we decided we will not see eye to eye.
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I think her response is rooted in her desire to not get hurt. She's afraid of being hurt, so she pushes out everything and puts up walls. She's an anxious avoider. But I don't think I can and reason with someone who doesn't desire to work on a problem together. If she's approaching me with a you vs me mindset, and not one that believes and trusts her best friend and wants to understand, I cannot talk and reason with her. She's angry. You can't argue with angry people.
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For happier news, I have rediscovered my love for reading :)
I'm reading fiction and fantasy again like I did 10 years ago, so all that has been fun. It's also crazy how something like booktok is trending, or how newer authors use social media to promote their series. Also interesting is the question on whether these kinds of books are getting popular with women bc of the romance and smut, or bc we actually like the story -
I find that reading is just an easy thing to do in the evening, like watching TV. And maybe I'm more inclined to reading now bc I have no priorities in the evening (i.e. studying, hw), and I'm also unimpressed with American shows nowadays
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Here's to another day of me asking everyone a million questions bc I don't know how to do my job :D
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I keep forgetting I have the ability to change my pfp
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This whole time, I've never been into anime right. Felt kinda out of place for the past 6 yrs here bc there wasn't an anime I wanted to use for a pfp like so many others
But now
Here I am. A fan of literally just jjk lol -
My irl friend, I think she would've definitely ended up here had she found it. She even had quotev too XD
Too scared to ask for her username lol. Then she'd find my profile and there's too much history there
But I just think it's funny now as adults just realizing we both went to similar places as teens -
Anyway, she made me watch jjk
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That last season ruined me ;-;
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And now she wants me to watch... Eh I forgot. Something cuter and less intense
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Oh she never told me. She said:
Lol it's this really sweet romance about a deaf girl and a guy who travels a lot and them showing eavhother their worlds -
Oop wait got distracted with my actual job
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