Please Help Me! I'm panicking! | Comments

Lexi, I'm so sorry for you being in this situation and want you to know that you have my prayers and support. I have been in very similar situations myself and I know how you are feeling. My suggestions: 1 Tell your parents!! They will understand and can help you. 2 Stick with your commitment to not have an abortion. If you don't feel you are ready to be a mother you can give it to someone who can better care for him or her. I would offer to adopt it myself but I live in another country and the red tape will be too much. Try to keep your child out of the foster system if you can as there are a lot of neglecting/abusing people there. 3 Cut off relationships with that guy. While not trying to hurt you I would suggest that you shouldn't have gotten re-involved with him in the first place(again speaking from personal experience). If you need help or support in any way, please don't hesitate to contact me at [no emails]. I'm thinking of you. - Mavourneen

I advise you to discuss this matter with your parents. They might be angry at first, I can't say, but it's a serious issue and remember, your parents would always want best for you. Don't hide the facts from your parents, it would do more harm than good. Your parents are your real best friends, always keep this in heart. Although situation might appear bleak and hopeless at the moment, never lose hope and have faith in yourself. Things would get better, trust in this saying. This situation, though not at all deserving to be faced by a young girl, should serve as an eye opener to you and a lesson for your future dealings. Take this incident as a lesson, nothing more, and be cautious in the future, but for now, don't feel helpless. Discuss this with your parents, they'd know better than any other person in the world or this website: they would always be willing to help. My advice may not be inspiring at all, but I hope it helped a little bit, if not much.

Hi Lexi---

I'm so sorry to hear that you're panicking! Firstly, let me assure you that you are absolutely NOT ALONE. I know it feels isolating right now, but this does indeed happen all the time. Support is readily available--ask your folks, your doctor, your religious advisor, your teachers. Secondly, please, TELL YOUR FOLKS. I know that will seem like you can hardly bear that, and while there might--or might not--be some drama, once they come to terms with it themselves, I know they'll be in your corner. And you need to talk to them about this some time, so why put it off? The sooner everyone comes to terms with it, the sooner you can start breathing a sigh of relief. But you do need to talk to them, no matter what. And lastly, please, disregard any advice you get from us on what to do regarding your pregnancy: that's really none of our business. None at all. Instead, consult your support network and weigh their advice appropriately. I'd start with your folks, your doctor, and any spiritual advisor you may have, subject to your own principles--not theirs. But don't listen to us about that.

I didn't say "idiot", I said "idjit". Since you brought up the forums, go on there and ask what people think about me. They won't say that I'm rude. They might say that I'm straightforward, but not rude. And you didn't say that it's stupid giving advice when a quiz isn't relevant, you called those people stupid. Yes, I do have strong opinions because I'm sick of people like you thinking that you can say what other people can and can't do. Someone needs to stand up to people like you, and I'm not afraid to do it. I've done it multiple times in real life, one of them being my little sister, and some girl was thinking about hurting herself because of those people and that my actions helped her. So yeah, I have strong opinions, and I'm going to tell those people what they're doing wrong, and fight until they realize it. Which you have not yet. So, darling, I hope you enjoy being rude to people because if you keep this up, you'll just get worse.

Blessed be )O(

Hey, Lexi.

Don't listen to them, you were hurting and you probably weren't thinking straight and.. things happen when people are upset (That guy took advantage of the situation but didn't think about the consequences that you will face). As a lot of people here said, you can't hide the baby forever. Try to keep the pregnancy if you can! Maybe your parents or other family members can look after the baby when it's born. You could even put it up for adoption but if you just can't see yourself going through this then use abortion as a last resort. It'd be better if you didn't have to use it. My friend gave birth at 15, been with her all the time and she says she made the right choice, right now her mum is helping her raise her daughter (and my god-daughter ^v^) and everything turned out all right. Hope it turns out fine for you too

Best wishes and luck to you and the baby!
-Micha

I also advice you to cease all communications with the said Caleb. After his real character has been revealed, I don't think you should trust him anymore. Guys like him have a way of manipulating young girls, and unfortunately, they succeed, only because today's media has brainwashed the young female minds into believing everything people like him say to be "romantic". Remember, character matters more than looks, and in future, if you ever meet people like him, you should know better than believing them.

P.S. I may sound harsh, but sorry, I don't have any intention of being so.

You must not let your friends define who you are. If they define who you are, as a $lu+, you lose your identity. You must define yourself and not be harmed by other people's words or actions. Caleb made a mistake, and you made a mistake as well, I'm not going to say you didn't, but it isn't your fault. It's nobody's fault at all. You mustn't let other people bring you down. You have to tell your mom, of all people, or a trusted adult you know will not judge. After your mom's initial shock and anger, she will help a lot. You just have to deal with her anger for maybe a week. It may sound hard, but once you get through it, you'll be glad you talked to her. You'll make it through. Don't fall into the deep pit of depression. It's terrible; I've been there. Think positive. The glass is almost empty, but not completely. Hang on to the hopes that you have, and even though I'm a guy, your story moved me a lot. Feel free to email me at amfp.223@gmail. Emails aren't allowed; put the .com on when you type it. Whatever happens, I hope it works out well for you. It's Caleb's girlfriend's fault she had to let out her emotions in front of the class. Nobody should do that. She did it out of anger, and there were dire results. However, you should consult a therapist and find ways to achieve inner peace and not be harmed by other people's words. Remember, don't let others define you. You must define yourself. Believe in God and let him lead the way. Define your own life and your own image, don't let anything blind you. All the best,

X

Oh my God, Lexi, I am so sorry. Idk why I'm crying, but I'm sorry. I know it's a long road and it's going to be hard and you're going to be stigmatised by a lot of people. But do you know something? If there is someone who is sure never to desert you, it's your mom. Thinking about telling her is dreadful, summoning courage to tell her is dreadful, looking at her disappointed and shocked face is dreadful but what is more dreadful would be her finding out from another person. Tell her. After the initial shock and rage, she will settle down and comfort you because she understands it's not easy for you. Whatever happens, please lemme know.

Oh and I wasn't saying they were blind because they didn't know I said it because I had written a comment clearly already saying its not a new quiz. Which they didn't see even though they managed to post a comment.

You seem to over react when people have strong opinions and you can't stand anything that isn't literal, saying "are you blind" is a widely used phrase. Most of my comments are saying I like a quiz or my results and everyone i have talked to on here has been nice or said thankyou for commenting or whatever so its your problem.

I know I'm not rude and you sound a lot ruder than me.

I know we have never met, and probably never will, but I have advice for you, Lexi. (and I am only 11!)... 1.) Tell your parents, they should know what to do! If you are too afraid, write a note and slip it in their room. 2.) Dump that idiot! Caleb sounds like a TERRIBLE person, and you deserve someone better than that jerk. If he's already had "sex," why did you even like him?! 3.) Try to take care of the baby as best you can. Do NOT use abortion unless neccesary. Who knows, maybe you will marry a loving, kind father for him/her! Try not to put them up for adoption or foster care unless neccessary, because people could abuse th child. Maybe even worse... O_O I will be praying for you in secret, Lexi. My parents shall never know I took this quiz. I hope Caleb gets off your back.

A compassionate Froakie4444

I feel empathy for you, even though this has never happened to me, I know that you wouldn't want to tell anyone, but pass though embarrassment and try to talk to someone, a school counselor, your parents, anyone, (in my advice) I'm never going to be a mother, to be honest, I never want to be, so I would have an abortion, but I saw that you didn't believe in it, you could take my advice or not, I don't care much, I'm a writer an artist, so I study many things (although I am very young), you seem to be trapped between happiness and fear, I KNOW THAT FEELING!!! your ready to grow up and show everyone how mature and ready you are, but at the same time, you don't want to make your parents feel upset that their loosing their child to the world, but despite that feeling, you have to make the choice... be a mom, or give it up.

OMG! Wow, don't worry you need to calm down! First you need

to take a deep breath! Than next you NEED to tell someone about this promblem! Tell an older sibling,aunt, mom,teacher, etc. someone who will understand! After you should tell the school consoler. Take another pregnancy test just to make sure. For more advice watch the full movie on YouTube called "Mom at 16". It a truly amazing story that will defiantly help you out! Sorry if I'm too late! Good luck! Don't listen to the mean people! Ps you should write a quiz about what happened after - you'll get lots of hits on it! Post a pic if u have a baby!

Oh honey:( As many have already said, you need to tell your parents. They may be a angry but they will suppport you. It's also true that this guy took advantage of you. Don't tell him, he doesn't deserve to be part of your baby's life if you beleive he won't support you. True friends would support you. You need to also get prenatal vitamins and have a regimented diet for your baby. You should also keep up good exercise so you can more easily give birth. Lexi, you can find most of this information online. Good luck, and don't give up!

-Morgan

I so thought I posted a comment on this, but I guess I didn't. You probably don't look at the comments anymore, but here:

Don't be scared. Just take it day by day. It'll be alright. Tell your parents by starting from the beginning. Tell them that Caleb's (I think that was his name) girlfriend told him that he couldn't talk to you, and it was really hard on you, and after a while, you started crying because of it and you weren't thinking straight. Say that Caleb saw you and things spiraled out of control and that you are now pregnant. Your parents might be disappointed in you, but they shouldn't hate you because you are their child. I hope this helps you. Blessed be. ~Meg.

I advise you to talk to your parents. Do not get an abortion. Go to a doctor and get a proper pregnancy test because some pregnany test are false. Though, I'm not actually sure this is reliable because their was a similar story with the user Diamond Emerald and she said she had sex with a guy and got pregnant. But if it is true I wish you good luck. Once you tell your parents they might send you a new school. Anyhow, stay away from this guy. The best advice I can five you is: Sticks and Stones may break my bones but words can never hurt me.

Good luck x

Your friends are not your real friends if they are shunning you, and are not there for you. I know Emme has mentioned this already, but while people like them come and go, your parents and family will always be there to support you. They may be angry and shocked at first, but they will be more concerned for you and will help you ultimately feel better. What you want to do with is up to you, and your parents can help you make the wisest choice in this situation. I feel for you, and any person, especially of your age should never have to go through this. Tell them at a good time, and practice a bit of what to say and how to say it. Raising a child is no easy matter, and it sounds like this Caleb is not the right person to bring up he or she. I hope things get better for you down the road.

I know it’s gonna be hard. People make mistakes. It’s just our nature. If he’s making your life fall apart, he isn’t the right guy. Tell your parents everything. They will be mad, but they will MOST DEFINITELY help you. Straighten things out. As for the baby, abortion, in my opinion, is not the answer. Ask a parent or guardian to help you. It will make it so much easier. Straighten things up with your friends. Only true friends will understand. It will be hard, but you’ll make it through. Understand that it’s not just your fault. It’s also Caleb’s. Also remember that this fact doesn’t mean you can slack off completely. You are both equally guilty. I hope you can get through this mistake the RIGHT way. Good luck Lexi!!

You know what? Maybe you can keep the kid and pretend it's your little sibling until you're ready to be the mom! And if your parents support you maybe they can be the mom and dad for the baby until your ready. I feel so bad for you. I may just be an author but believe me, I know how to handle anxious situations because I have GAD (generalized anxiety disorder). I really hope you're okay!

Please, please, please read!

Being a mother is hard, I know that. But you're too young. Abortion may be mean and seem wrong, but having a baby at your age is inappropriate and the only right option is the painful one. I'm sorry to hear your story, I really am. I don't like abortion either, but trust me, it is the correct choice. A baby will get in the way of your school work, and you'll end up failing, never getting a job and being homeless. Abortion makes sense in this situation. I'm so so sorry. Take it from a mother of 7 kids.

Please use the Internet to research places where you can safely surrender the baby, if abortion isn't an option. What happened isn't your fault. Caleb is older than you, almost an adult, and you were extremely emotional at the time; he clearly took advantage of you.

Remember, there are people who love you and care about you.

I realize that this is an old quiz, but I just want to say that I hope everything goes well for you. Definitely ask your parents for help, even if it hurts your pride. If Caleb won't help support the child, cut him out of your life. And if your friends are shunning you, they aren't your real friends. Try to find people who will always be supportive. I've never been through this myself, but I hope the advice is helpful.

Don't quote my comments like that either - i could just as easily quote yours:

"You, darling, are an idjit.

On that logic, then you-and everyone else on this site-are also blind. Kindly get off whatever device you are using to get on here, and seriously rethink everything that you have posted, so you can realize how rude it sounds."

Well, I'm pretty sure that a lot of people have already said this but, you should tell your parents. Tell them the exact truth. They won't hate you for this. Dissapointed? Probably. Mad? Maybe, so. But, keeping it a secret isn't going to help. And, if the guy you like/love isn't supporting you on this, then I don't think he's right for you. I know you might be very worried and stressed, and you also might be wondering how to tell your parents. So, start out slow. Making a mistake doesn't mean they'll give up on you. Whatever decision you'll choose, I hope the very best. You got my support(: xo

Hi there Lexi. Well, what a story! I'm sorry to hear what has happened to you. I would figure out what to do first: keep or no keep. Just like you, I don't believe in abortion. There is a number of people who would want yo adopt your baby. However, it is your choice as to what you want to do. Just look at the pros and cons of each option. Remember that your parents will be there for you no matter what. Just follow your gut and don't let anyone else tell you what to do. Its your baby, and therefore your choice on what to do with it. Congratulations on the baby, and good luck hon. :)

Hey, there is a website called iperiod and one called ipregnant and there are all kinds of young ladies an women there that will know just what you should do. Definitely talk to your parents about this, I know that sounds terrifying but please, it's the best thing to do in your situation. It sucks right now but things will get better and you will make all kinds of friends on the app I told you about. They are super friendly and most of them have gone through what your going through now. Good luck, Hun:)