I need some help
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Thread Topic: I need some help
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So at my old school I could hardly trust anybody. One moment you could, and the next, they were trying to use you to their advantage. The teachers didn't consider anything bullying unless it was physical. I've had to deal with this for ten years.
Now at my new school, everyone's so friendly and nice, and the teachers have a -100 bullying tolerance. As in, you don't respect someone, and you get a lecture. It's a full 180.
Except I don't really know what to do. Part of me is overjoyed at the change, but part of me is also going, "IT'S A TRAP!" In my experience, friendliness means they're trying to use you to their advantage. But I can tell that it's genuine friendliness. They're not trying to do anything to me. Anyway, even if they did want to (which I doubt they would), there's no way they'd be able to because of the teachers.
It's habit for me to not trust people, and my brain is struggling to adjust to this completely new environment where I can trust anyone and become friends with pretty much anyone.
Also I don't want to make them feel bad because I do something from a habit that I've had for the past ten years. I don't know how to break the habit.
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Pace yourself with one person at a time.
I've come to trust a few of the GTQ users as if I always have because of this. You just have to take your time.
I'm not sure if that's a part of you that will ever leave entirely, but for each person you meet, you have to work towards letting your guard down. And once you're comfortable, you'll expand naturally to more easily trust others. But once you find someone who can help you see who you can trust and who you should avoid, you'll be doing a lot better.
Ultimately, though, and as I've mentioned, YOU have to decide who you'll let in. -
I talked to my mom about it. She went through the same thing I did, it turns out. She said to choose a person and have a bit of small talk with them and soon enough we'd be friends. I'm not sure that would work with me, though.
She also said I should talk to the school counselor, that's what she's there for. I might do that. -
I feel so confused right now
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Actually I looked at it and it looks like the social worker would actually be more for what's happening.
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Talked to her. Told me what I was doing was pretty good.
Also they're moving one of my friends to one of my classes, which I definitely was not expecting them to go to that length.
(Backstory on friend: Met him and a girl at new student orientation and the three of us just clicked and we became friends. But she's doing school online now, and he has none of the same classes as me (we don't even have lunch together), so I never get to see either of them) -
I've been doing better lately, but it all still feels wrong.
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