I'm Having Identity Issues
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Thread Topic: I'm Having Identity Issues
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Basically I've never really had a crush on anybody in my life, which I've always been fine with. Though all my friends seem surprised when I tell them because at least each and everyone of them has had at least one crush, if not more. An older friend of mine, who is in a relationship actually, once joked about me being asexual. Which got me thinking, am I really? I started to look into it and I've learned a lot about Sexual and Romantic orientation but here's the thing, all the advice I've found is based on if you've had experience with these sort of feelings. I haven't, like I said I haven't even developed my first crush. So now I'm confused. All my friends seem so sure of who they like, though in this small town it's like it's customary to be straight and since I was raised in a very accepting family, I've learned to think for myself. Many of my friends haven't, so I can't talk to them about these things without feeling awkward. It's like they are all expecting me to be straight and I'm just so confused.
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I don't know how old you are but it's normal if you haven't had a crush yet, especially if you're male because boys mature slower than girls. You'll probably realise what you are in your own time,
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Well contrary to popular belief it seems, I'm biologically female and age 13. Though thank you for the advice.
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Oh its because I thought cale was a boys name... The same thing applies though, I actually thought you were older than that but if you're only 13 then its fine. I bet a lot of your friends even just say they have a crush to fit in
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It's fine Cale isn't my real name but just a name I like that I decided to use because my creativity wasn't flowing the day I joined. Yeah, a lot of people assume I'm older than I actually am. Again thank you for the reassurance about this, though I'm still not sure as it seems everyone on here knows there orientation but me.
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I always thought you were a guy too....
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It's fine, I never said anything because I know I'm not the most feminine of girls, so I'm not really offended by it. I mean you've never seen my physical appearance, I've been mistaken for a boy once even with my long hair and my sort of obvious feminine appearance.
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I wish there was a way I could help, but personally I'm not asexual, so I wouldn't know much on the subject myself. I know a few people that are asexual, but that's really it.
You're thirteen, you have years to figure out what interests you. Maybe you are asexual, maybe you just don't like the people in your town. Who knows? The only thing I'll say is you have understanding eyes and ears here. A lot of us have had identity issues that we cope with ourselves, and most will help you understand something if they know about it.
Don't worry about what your friends expect you to be. Just figure out and be comfortable with yourself.
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