Who's the Selfish One?
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Thread Topic: Who's the Selfish One?
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Just now I witnessed a verbal argument from my sister and mum. My mum tells my sister to go to sleep (this was at 11:30pm) and my sister refuses. My sister than goes on about how she is never able to have sleepovers, stay up at night and that she is being forced into not getting a job. My mom tells my sister that she has bad friends (even though she has never met them, an old news article about two girls killing another girl during a sleepover happened and that she needs to concentrate on her studies instead of getting a job. Eventually, they both walk away from each other, cryingand being angry. They still are now but I just want everyone's opinion on this situation that I witnessed.
Who's the 'selfish' one? -
Well, I don't know them personally, but it seems to be more of a case of miscommunication of how they are thinking differently. I'm sure your mom means well, wanting your sister to be safe and have an education which would be seen as leading to a better future. Your sister feels as though she is being overprotected and should be able to have more freedom to make her own choices. What I would advise is that both of them try to see things from each others' perspective and explain why they believe one way is better. I think a compromise would be good, where maybe your mother lightens up a bit and your sister tries to keep a balance of responsibility and fun. I can understand this situation pretty well since when I was younger me and my mom didn't always see eye to eye, but over the years we've both learned to see each other's ways of thinking and have also mature quite a lot.
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Neither of them are selfish based on this exchange. Seems like they just butt heads. I dont along with my mom either, doesnt mean anything bad about either of us, just that we dont get along. I imagine the same is true of your mom and sister.
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Your sister needs to grow up and open her eyes.
Your mother needs to back the hell off.
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No one is wrong here... They aren't selfish
Sister... Going through the normal teen phase of not having any freedom. If she wants a part time job, I don't see anything wrong in that. I have no input a out sleep overs and staying up at night, we all want those at some point
Mother... Is being protective. Could be unnerved by that article. May need to meet friends of your sister to actually be able to judge them. She may be right about the job, having a job and studying may prove to be more difficult to do (first hand experience) but if she is smart smart smart then I don't see why not.
Anyway I just don't see anyone as selfish or wrong and they both have very valid reasons for arguing but eventually I thinl your mom may need to just lighten up abit and allow a sleepover atleast -
No one
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I don't think anyone here is selfish or wrong they both have very valid reasons in their argument...
Sister... Going through the normal teen phase of getting a little more freedom. Is she up for a part time job? If so I don't see anything wrong in that. As for sleep overs and staying up late... Well we have all wanted these at some point in our lives haven't we?
Mom... Is being protective. Article may have her unnerved. I think she should actually meet friends before judging. However she may be right about the job, studying will be quite difficult (first hand experience) unless she is quite smart. I think your mom may need to have a sleepover for your sister and just see how that pans out, she will meet some of her friends too.
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Sorry for the double post, I didn't realise it had sent darn net issues
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Iamcutiemoon13 NewbieI think your sister is
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