Could someone calm me down please?
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Thread Topic: Could someone calm me down please?
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About two months ago, my family (grandparents and cousins) went to a beach house. We didn’t go because my mom was stressed out about it. When we went to visit them, my grandfather wasn’t looking very well and there had been a lot going on. My cousins and aunt told my parents that my grandad only had about three more months left to live. My parents sat my siblings and I down later that night and had a conversation about everything.
I didn’t feel much about it. I love my grandparents with all my heart, but for some reason I was numb to the fact that time was running out.
Well, it just hit me a few minutes ago and I’ve been freaking out. We’ve been doing our hardest to spend as much time with my grandfather as much as possible, but I know it isn’t enough. My parents said it isn’t a matter of if my grandmother calls in hysterics for help with my grandfather, it’s a matter of when.
I’m still getting over the death of my grandfather (mom’s side) that died two years ago. I just know that all hell is going to break loose when the time comes. I’m not ready for him to go yet. I haven’t spent enough time with him yet.
Someone please calm me down, because whatever I’m doing isn’t working. -
First of all, I'm sorry that you're experiencing this. I know it's painful to know that a loved one's days are numbered, but it's better than to lose then suddenly. I don't know if I can really help the situation. Ultimately, it just takes time for it to sink in and more time for you to find peace with it. Right now, while you still have him, try to focus on making memories. There are some who survive long after their expectancy. You never know. Worrying about tomorrow (or the next day) won't change whatever is to come, but if you spend today worrying about tomorrow, that would be time lost you could spend with your grandfather.
But, don't neglect your feelings. When there's a lull in activity, find some time for yourself. Cry if you need to. Write it out, talk to someone, wherever it takes. This isn't an easy thing to navigate, and everyone does it differently, but I hope that you can find comfort through it all. -
I don't know if you're still here, but, if it helps, I did let Dav know and they said they'll talk to you as soon as they're not driving. I'm sorry if what I said wasn't helpful.
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That calmed me down a bit, thank you. It was helpful advice. I needed to hear that.
Also thank you so much. 💖💖💖 -
Hey I’m here now
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Hey Dav 💖
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hey
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Hey, I'm sorry to hear that you're going through this. I just want you to remember that it's okay to let it all out, and your grandfather will never really be gone. He'll always be with you, in the memories you keep and the love you share, and I know he'll be watching over you from heaven. Take some time to cry and grieve, it's better than keeping it all in.
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