For my own information:
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Thread Topic: For my own information:
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Please explain to me how I abused anyone. You keep saying that, but I genuinely have no idea what you're talking about and it's bugging me.
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Who said that
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Not you, don't worry about it.
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Remember this next time you talk about me not owning up to whatever I did. Have a great night.
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if you can't think back on how you treated all of the people who cared about you— the amazing one-of-a-kind friends that you lost because of your own behavior— then i think you might need to get some professional help recognizing your toxic behaviors and learning to see things in a different perspective. i can guarantee you that you are no saint.
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Could you give any specific examples? there must be some receipts available
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Road, I never knew you to abuse any one. You are kind, not the abusing type.
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I have no energy to look for the post I'm about to reference, but I remember a time when they suddenly announced they were cutting me off. It came out of nowhere, and it made me panic. Having a long time friend do something like that is really hard to process. I remember scrambling to message them and find out what I had done wrong. To figure out how I could try and make amends. I didn't realize it then, but I wasn't freaking out at the idea of losing our friendship. I was downright terrified to make them upset because I was scared of what things would be like if they decided they no longer liked me. How they would reference me, whether our mutual friends would have to pick sides, etc. I didn't want to be on their bad side because I knew how they treated the people they didn't like. Seriously. Look through any of their older threads if they haven't been deleted. There's a lot of vague posting and other poor behavior associated with the people they hurt. I had to beg them to give me another chance. The irony of it all is that they became pretty good friend with the person they couldn't bear to see me interact with. All that fuss for nothing.
While what happened between us may not be an example of abuse, I think it's safe to assume it is an example of how they have been toxic. And the fact that they felt the need to make this thread at all is an example of how good they are at manipulating situations. Asking someone they hurt to relive that trauma and "prove" something to them and others? Nobody who is clear of fault would do something like that. They did this to silence a victim. -
If you want another example, I can easily remember how much it sucked trying to be a moderator with you. You would pretend to ask for our opinions, to want to hear "other perspectives," but you didn't. Especially if those opinions didn't coincide with your belief system. You would put other teammates down. Made others terrified to share their thoughts. Plus, you would belittle anyone who got upset and needed to step away from that s---ty environment. You thrive on the mentality that everyone is either with you or against you, and that is certainly not a positive habit.
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Hmm?
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Damn if I tried typing that my fingers would explode
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I was not involved with any of the original.drama, so forgive me if I'm missing anything, but from my own interactions with road I don't see that person anymore. I see someone who has grown and is looking to find healing from this.
I might not be informed enough to make this call but is this not something that you can all work through? This issue keeps coming up. Why not let everyone get their feelings out and see if any remedy can be had?
It's okay if anyone wants to just let bygones be bygones, but this lustlacker communication and blame shifting back and forth isn't good for anyone. -
With all due respect, please explain to me how Road requesting people to publicly share their trauma is "trying to find healing."
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I don't personally feel safe to bring up anything that's happened to me.
I was also told to never interact with Road again, in dms on discord, before they blocked me; so now them asking for people to step forward feels kind of unfair. I know I'm not the only person Road told to never interact with them again, before blocking them.
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