For my own information:
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Thread Topic: For my own information:
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No matter how rotten a person has been to you it doesn't mean you shouldn't forgive them
Forgiving someone makes them obsolete but holding a grudge makes them importance
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It disgusts me that you all would bring this to a public forum. Whatever happened clearly happened in private and thus should remain that way. Children do not care to witness you argue with another adult about abuse, especially when it's not something that happened here. As a matter of fact, bringing children into the argument is abuse in itself because you manipulate them one way or the other.
Whatever happened, if it's that bad, stop talking to the person. Stop bringing it up. Go get professional help for yourself. You obviously have suffered some sort of trauma to feel the need to keep bringing this up and roping other people into it, so go tend to yourself and stop telling others to get help. Everyone needs to just look at themselves and see what they're doing wrong.
It was not appropriate to make a thread about this drama, but it is equally inappropriate to slander someone and spread all this information that had nothing to do with any of the people here you're giving it to.
Stop bringing your private drama between users on this site. Stop bringing up past issues to new users, possibly destroying their chance at redemption.
Settle your issues where they started. And if it's been years or months, let it go. If it still bothers you, talk to them about it and get it resolved. Just stop coming on here starting mess.
Users you fell out with are allowed to be on the forums. Users should not have to deal with constant talk about what they did wrong elsewhere as that is their personal business that you're sharing with the world. That in itself is harassment and humiliation.
Stop trying to convince CHILDREN that one or the other is correct. They have nothing to do with this and don't care to hear your trauma against each other as they already have enough of their own. -
Dark, I can apologize for how I was when I was younger, but all that anger and hatred isn't for me anymore and hasn't been for a very long time. I am, truly, so sorry for making you feel the way you did.
My intention here was never to make anyone relive any troubling memories- I'm not interested in having any of them back in my life and I'm not looking for forgiveness. All I wanted was to know what I've done to hurt people so I can fix that behavior. I'm not willing to have private contact with the people alleging that I abused them. I never want to hear from any of them again after this. Literally all I'm trying to do is prevent myself from repeating problematic behavior in the future and hurting the people in my life now. -
You do realise, that road made this thread right?
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Aren't you guys the ones publicly calling them an abuser? Don't pull that "we were told not to interact" s--- when this is the first time they've ever called you on it and you talk s--- about them publicly constantly
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@bargain deal did you even bother to read the post Road just made admitting that they don't rant off site contact
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*want not rant
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I haven't been active in months, and I was the one saying the do not interact statement. So I don't know how I'm s--- talking anyone publically constantly, but I'll keep that in mind. /gen
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Effie and fifidee publicly called road an abuser today. If you're going to make that claim publicly then you must be willing to defend it. They should not be allowed to say that publicly if road isn't allowed to ask them why they said that publicly.
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Where did they call road an abuser at? /gen can u link me?
I'm neither Effie nor Fifidee, I was just making my own statement. -
Hi, please fact check.
We did not say " Road is an abuser" or " your abusive ex Road"
That was an assumption Road, and you have made.
I just said " your abusive ex"
As vague as can possibly be.
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I think you are missing the point. They started this thread by claiming they have no clue what abuse anyone is talking about; but when I come into the picture, suddenly they are aware they were toxic and they want help preventing that behavior? This is just another scheme to get people to pick sides, and you are falling right into the trap.
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If it was about an abusive ex, it could of been about me. Me and Effie's relationship wasn't healthy. /gen
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@Fifidee
But, you do not deny that you were speaking of Road?
Also, you seem to act be a bit paranoid when people vague post about anyone else. You assume they're speaking of you, and you say they are not allowed to. What are you saying, now, then? Perhaps you may vague post about others but god forbid they do it to you?
Maybe there is no way to tell if you're actually speaking about Road. But, likewise, there is no way you know for certain others are talking about you. -
Effie posted that right after road told her to leave their thread. Context matters.
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