I forgot how much I dislike my dad
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Thread Topic: I forgot how much I dislike my dad
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Yeah, I’ve been slowly coming to terms with that over the past few years, and tonight was actually the first time that I’ve actually said it out loud
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im so sorry. i had a similar thing happen with me and my step-dad. he grabbed my dog by her neck and drug her off of my bed and onto the floor for no reason at all. i was 14 or 15 and actually hit him because my dog had been there for me since i was 7 years old and she was my best friend and i could not see her get treated like that and for that reason ad some others i chose to move in with my dad.
i am so sorry you had to deal with that i know how it feels to deal with that and i just hope that you feel better -
So now I’m just playing Pokémon until I feel better/forget enough about what happened to get tired enough to go to sleep
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Jesus. Your step-dad sounds like a piece of s--- too. I’m sorry that happened but I’m glad you got out of that environment
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thats just a small sliver of why i dislike him but i hope you do feel better. what i would say is to just keep your dogs close to you for now if you can give them love and show em' that you love them
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When I think back on some things my pops did I seem to attribute them mostly to his incredible stress in life. But I have to remember the other factor, his own father
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Yeah, after everything happened and he went back in his room, I made sure the pups were okay and they seemed less excited than they usually are, but that was about it.
And only one or two of them will sleep on my bed, but the rest sleep with my parents/my mom. They’re really just in there because of my mom and my older dog will actually growl and snarl at my dad if he gets too close to my mom or me if we’re laying down on our beds. Like she really doesn’t like him -
That seems to be a pattern with abusive fathers. Their own father is usually abusive, but I still have to remind myself that that’s not an excuse for what they’ve done to us. You always have the power to break the cycle
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i guess youre right but its hard to know how to change if you never experienced what is correct to do
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I still remember when he whacked me hard because I was being too loud at night. And when he threatened to lock me in room (same reason). Then again I should've stfu'd
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unless you go to therapy
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Ive heard of people who change themselves to become a better person without relying on therapy of any sort
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yeah but there are some things that are hard to overturn. i understand that people can change themselves for the better and no matter what that takes time. i dont really know why i brought up therapy. it wasnt very helpful anyways.
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Thats because the most difficult change comes from inside, not out. To console oneself is sometimes more perilous and chaotic than to sail the strongest storm
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^ Forgot to add- and yet its the change we most desperately need
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