The Lace In Your Dress
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Thread Topic: The Lace In Your Dress
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We will take it on walks
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alright listen you little s---
im going to copy paste a thing i wrote on your situation and you're gonna read that s--- and not be ignorant got it -
"Okay. So. First of all, my sister lives with my mom and I live with my dad.
My sister (we'll call her Cindy) comes over to the apartment my dad and I live in on the weekends, but she lives with my mom and goes to school in the city my mom lives in.
Reasons my sister should move in with us:
*Better schools. My mom lives in a very ghetto area and the schools suck. If she moved in with us, she'd go to a certain school that happens to be one of the top in the state. I went to the middle school my sister is currently at, and it is an awful school. It has a 'D' rating, and the one she'd move to has either a 'B' or an 'A' rating (can't remember which). She'd learn a lot more and have a lot more opportunities academically.
*Better area. Like I said, it's really ghetto and trashy where my mom lives. Where we live is a lot better. We live in a college town, so there's a more diverse and involved community. There's a lot more to do and learn. It's a great place, and wayyyy less drugs. Speaking of which
*My mom. My mom sucks. She physically and emotionally abused me for years, my brother before that. She has and may still do drugs, and she lets homeless people stay in a house that isn't even hers. She doesn't feed good food. I remember days where she didn't feed us at all. She's a slob with bugs and rodents in her home. She doesn't take care of herself or anything she owns. She leaves to go party in the middle of the night (which would be less awful if her neighbourhood wasn't so dangerous), and when she gets caught she just dumps my sister on my sick grandma. So most of the time, my sister isn't even with my mom. She ditched me and my sister for an entire year and we had to live with my grandma, but my mom still got the child support and claimed us on her taxes. I have trouble even calling her a "mom", because she never took care of us. I don't think she abuses my sister like she did to me and my brother, probably because now she's afraid of being caught. She's incredibly f---ing unstable and shouldn't have children under her care at all.
*Better living conditions. As mentioned above,my mom's house is awful. My mom doesn't pay her bills, so my gramma has to instead, which is milking my gramma dry (I think she may kick my mom out soon). Sometimes, she doesn't have electricity. And sometimes, she doesn't even have hot water. The house is completely trashed. Nothing is clean. It makes me think of Annie Wilkes' house in the book Misery, when Annie goes into a really bad depressive state and trashes the house with food and dirty dishes all over. It's disgusting and nobody should be subjected to living in that mess. I'm a neat freak, so I keep it hella clean over here or else I'd lose my sanity like I did living with her.
The problem is that Cindy doesn't want to live here. She has animals at my moms. She knows that they'll die if left alone with my mom. The poor dogs' ears are already bleeding from fleas, and the cat is losing all of its fur. My sister is probably the only reason the damn things aren't starving.
She also doesn't want to move schools. She has friends at her current school. She also has a girlfriend, who goes to a different school right now but might move back to Cindy's school soon.
Also, you might have guessed this, but my mom is very negligent. My mom doesn't care enough to discipline my sister, so Cindy kind of gets to do whatever the hell she wants (which isn't good for her anyway).
For legal reasons, my dad can't take my mom to court like he should, so if my sister moves here it has to be her choice. But she's only in middle school and kind of overemotional, so she doesn't really understand where her priorities should be and that living with my mom is toxic. She's said something about moving with my gramma so she's still close to her animals and at the same school, but my gramma is too old and sick to have to worry about raising a child. We can't do that to my gramma.
At this point, I'm kind of desperate. Is there ANYTHING you can think of that I can say to my sister to convince her?
(sorry if this is rambly, it's an emotional topic for me + I'm hopped up on caffeine rn)"
and don't give me that "i like it here" bullcrap because listen
I know you like it there, but it's not healthy for you to live there. I'm thinking I'm going to have to call gramma and talk to her about it if you don't realize soon that this is the best option for you -
No
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oh my god okay
Plan B
I really didn't want to do this -
What;-;
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My next move is to call Gramma and talk some sense into her
You aren't getting out of this. I'm doing this because I love you. It is physically and emotionally unhealthy for you to be where you are. -
I dont want to live at dads
if I cant live at moms I want to live with grandma
i havent told dad about that because I dont want him to think i dont love him -
Why do you want to live with gramma and not dad?
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My friends, my school
i have goals here
i signed up for newspaper next year -
They have newspaper here. You can make new friends. Leah, those things are so superficial. Those things aren't worth the psychological trauma you're settling yourself up for. Please, please try to think rationally. Do you really want to live like that until high school? Being tossed around from mom's to gramma's like a ragdoll? It's stable here.
Besides, gramma might kick mom out soon. And then mom might freak out and try to use you as a shield and as an excuse like she has for years. We need to get you here very soon, before that happens again and we lose our window of opportunity. Please, please, please move in with us. I'm trying so so hard to get you to look at this from the right angle. Please. -
Le1F Experienced
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I dont want to live there
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Why? Do you even hear what I'm saying?
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I like my life
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