I want to feel that real love...
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Thread Topic: I want to feel that real love...
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I want to feel that true and real attraction. My last relationship was full of lust+attachment+affection, but not love. Not that strong and true romantic attraction, like in the movies, you know?
So there was this girl in one of my classes last semester, I thought she was attractive but I didn't pay attention to her (I was in a relationship back then). About four months ago, the last time I saw her in that class, I found her looking at me a few times and after the class in the cafe there she was looking at me again. This time I looked her back in the eye, and it was like I was paralyzed for a few seconds...it felt really strong. I've had different crushes and several moments like this, but this one felt different. It was like being hypnotized, a very strong one. I knew I could've had that "real attraction and love like in the movies" with her, but what did I do? I turned and walked away like an ass and blew my chance because I was in a relationship...I thought I did the right thing back then, but now that my ex left me for another guy, I just regret not going for her... :/
And btw I didn't see her in that class again and later I found out she was in the class before mine (with the same subject) and for whatever reason she had attended my class for some time too and that's why I saw her for a while and then she disappered.
I'm not even 100 percent sure she liked me, but the way she looked at me and that feeling when our eyes locked, it was sooooooooo strong, just like in the movies. I think I've lost her anyway tho, so this is just pointless and I will be stuck with fake loves forever. fml -
Just go for it Vik, you'll never know how she feels unless you ask. Maybe ask her to hang out with you or something. It doesn't hurt to try right?
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You won't be stuck in fake loves forever, bro. The positive take away from this is that you know what you're looking for, and now you can try to find that in the future. Try not to get into another relationship if it's just for infatuation or lust so if you do come across the right girl you won't have an attachment that you wish you could drop. Honestly, I'm not that great with relationship advice since I haven't been in a lot of relationships, but I'm sure you'll find her someday. You seem like a nice guy and just need some confidence. If you see someone you could have a connection with, just start talking and be yourself. It's not like you have to get together at that moment either. Get to know each other and I'm sure you'll eventually find someone you get that awesome lovey feeling with again.
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@Carrotop Problem is I don't know how to find her. And she probably doesn't like me anymore after all this time and after what I did, but still I will keep her in a corner of my mind...
@Ana Actually that was a great advice. You're right, this time I will wait for someone who I'm really attracted to. And that hypnotizing feeling? Damn I want that too. I just hope you're right, that I will eventually find it :/ -
Love is an internal mechanism. The capacity for deep love is essentially a decision. Anything else is just a combination of hormones and attachment.
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Define "hormones".
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Define "hormones".
And please don't go science on me. I know the difference between someone I'm attracted to romantically and someone I'm just fond of. -
damn.
I meant define hormones as in your post -
Im not going science. Im saying that the deep love your talking about is an intellectual achievement that you have to logically understand before you can emotionally apply it, or rather that it is the ability to think both emotionally and logically at the same time.
Dude...im not gonna define hormones...google it real quick. -
I know what hormones are. But the hormones you used, and its connotation, was so misleading. So define what you mean.
And what you say doesn't make sense sorry. -
Thats probably why you don't have the kinda love you want buddy. Cant have something you don't understand.
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Can't have something I don't understand? Well I have a lot of things I don't actually understand. I don't get you, are you stating facts or what? You kinda lost me.
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Don't worry about it, happens to the best of us.
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Are you 12?
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Would it make a difference somehow if I was?
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