help me.
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Thread Topic: help me.
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My half- brother is 19 years old. He doesn't have any mental disorders or anything, but he's a generally angry person. Probably because his dad died. I don't know. We have the same mom, and I wasn't born yet, so it didn't affect me at all.
My mom is turning 42 today, and she's a very loud, in- charge kind of person. She yells at us when we get in trouble, not my dad. She is the yeller. I don't hear men yell often. So when I do, it's scary and loud and I feel like I'm in danger.
My mom and my brother got into a fight like 10 minutes ago, and it's kind of my fault. I was standing by the dishwasher in the kitchen, and my mom was nagging my brother about a ton of pointless s---, and he was walking around cleaning, and he started to open the dishwasher, and I was standing there. I didn't see him opening it, so he VERY VERY LIGHTLY tapped my leg with the dishwasher to make me move. My mom saw him do that and blew up, like EXPLODED at him, and he snapped.
They were yelling at each other, and she said "don't be an ass!" He said "I'm not an ass!" She started screaming at him about touching my leg with the dishwasher door and he blew up right back at her. He yelled something like "Jesus f---ing Christ!" and she yelled "Out! Get out of my house!" He was still doing chores as they yelled, and he was picking up his clothes to go and take care of them when she said that, so he yelled "Ok. As soon as I'm done with this." She said back "No. Get out." And then he yelled really loud (louder than anything I've ever heard) "After I take care of my f---ing clothes." He shoved her a little and started to storm towards the door, and she was crying (I don't think she was physically injured) and he yelled right before going outside "f---ing fat c---"
My mom is overweight (she's had 6 kids and all my grandparents on her side ever do is sit on their fat asses, so it's not really her fault) so he really hurt her feelings. I love my mom, and I love my brother, but their fight scared me, and I don't know what to do. I cleaned up from dinner, and got my 6 and 7 year old siblings to make her birthday cards, and now I'm doing my homework. That's what she told me to do (not the birthday card part) and I did it. I want to help, but I don't want to screw anything up.
She called my dad (so she's getting support, so that's good) and I overheard some bad stuff.
1) "I checked his medication earlier, and he's only taken three in the past three weeks. He's not taking them regularly like he's supposed to." I had NO IDEA that he had medication. It might be for his anger? I don't know.
2) "He'll probably find a s--- hotel and keep working at amazon..." So he's legitimately running away and staying away. Usually he goes for a drive or something.
I feel like my family is falling apart. Everybody is under more stress because we are trying to sell our house because we have to move. Everybody has more work since I started going to public school (I used to be homeschooled and I could help around the house a lot more). Everybody is yelling more, fighting more, and just not caring as much.
I don't really give a s--- what you post. If anybody posts anything I'll feel supported. At the very least, I'll know that you cared enough to post. -
FluffyEtini NewbieMust be hard
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Hi
Just want to let you know that these things happen.
Its what makes up the family, the more fights happen the stronger the bond will grow in the future.
I for example am adopted, my parents dumped me in a garbage can near an orphanage (they didn't even leave me on the doorstep) so you can say I was born a mistake, someone not wanted
But I was adopted into a family and I can't say I had a good life because it was terrible... My step father was an alcoholic and would hit me with anything I could find to the extent that I was sent to hospital 3 times for cut wounds, and my mom wouldn't do anything about it.
As I grew older, I became more verbal and rebellious much like your brother and eventually they stopped abusing me and now we are just one big family and we don't talk about the past anymore.
So all I am saying is that, what happens, sometimes we just have no control over it, you have to be strong and live through it, because (if you believe in God) then He is just preparing you for the times ahead.
Imagine being abused everyday for 12 years with no one to talk to or go to, aside from my family I have no one.
But I lived through it and now I have a job as an accountant and enjoying it =)
So trust me, things happen for a reason, it may seem bad at first, but you will see the real benefits of it in the future.
Just be strong and talk to both your mom and brother in a very non-biased wayModerator -
Kish is right, the bonds grow back stronger. My dad and uncle had a big argument after his mother died, they haven't spoke since and he says all his brothers are dead.
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