rhi's thread // my info has been remembers this entire time
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Thread Topic: rhi's thread // my info has been remembers this entire time
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that's exciting that you're going to college!! i wish you the utmost success in it. don't give up and whatever you do, don't do what i did and not get a degree even though attending for 4 years XD
Nursing degree = completely useless if you don't actually end up becoming a nurse for the rest of your life =_= i'm so glad i didn't but i live with the regret every day of wishing i had been nurtured in my true passions to get a college degree in art or music
i truly think if i had been less pressured to get a "typical" degree (e.i., business, nursing, lawyer, doctor) i would have gotten such a solid art / music education
the good part is that these things can be studied even without a degree nowadays and some people are super successful who don't necessarily have degrees in those areas. -
Ehhh, just unlikely lol
Oh that's good, glad to hear!
Yeaahhh that's honestly my thing too. I don't like them either, feels really oppressive in multiple ways but I've really filled out my profiles and stuff cause if I'm gonna bother I might as well try to as well as I can lol. Yeah, takes me a long time to find anyone vaguely like me but they almost never yes back and even even if they do they never say anything, which is especially annoying on Bumble lol
Yeah...I'm sorry, that does suck.
Ehhh I'm not so sure about that 😅 but I hope so too anyway
Thank you!! I'm actually just going back after stepping away due to covid, and also trying to figure some things out. I wasn't doing too well before because I was really emotionally hurt and the future was looking really bleak and pointless, but I'm doing better at least in the specific way of how I'm seeing the future. Still not doing all that great in certain other areas but I doubt I'll ever be better than I am now with those and they shouldn't affect my college work too much.
Yeahhh, that's largely what I'm afraid of doing, spending all of the time, resources, effort and money to get a degree and then have it be useless.
Idk...most of the stuff that's an actual salary job that I find has a lot of requirements...I can try and do freelancing but although people will judge you by your work that way rather than the points on your resume, it requires someone notices you exist first lol, which people do not I. And yeah, I like learning on my own anyway, I much prefer that to how you have to do things in college, I'm not going as much to learn, moreso to have proof that I know what I know. -
I'm sorry you went through that feeling of things being bleak and pointless. College sometimes can aggravate those feelings tbh
Yesss, for sure, people have to have portfolios if they didn't go the college route and they have to build a following through social media, usually.
It's hard because college is a time to make connections in all honesty and if you don't have college you have to make all the connections on your own.
That's an excellent reason to finish college though, to have the proof that you have the education. These days with crime on the rise and all sorts of stuff, people can't get hired as easily. It's kind of for good reason but it can be frustrating. -
My dream at this point is to just be someone's housewife and be able to make my music and make my art at home while they work full time xD
I can't believe I'm saying that but it's true, I wanna be a housewife and be the main one to raise the kids (if i ever have kids, that is) -
whoever my future husband is though would have to give me money regularly xD
i'd help him budget though i can't have a man who doesn't know how to budget omg -
the most i'll ever be is a manager somewhere probably because right now I'm trying to work my way up in a coffee business
they already have assistant managers there but as soon as the position is open i'm gonna take it -
Yeah...it was already a difficult time, and the pipeline systems college is often a part of make it feel like if you don't have your whole life planned out from the start then it WILL fail. or at least that's the feeling I got from my admittedly particularly difficult choice of (now mostly ex) dream job. So when I was otherwise hurt, and my grades began to plummet, everything just kinda fell out beneath me.
Yep, and that's exactly the problem I'm having, I have very few connections in that regard so my ability to form more is very very small.
Indeed, it is a good reason. One that feels rather redundant, but still a good reason.
Honestly I wouldn't mind a set up like that if I could ever actually make enough to support the family that way, but with how the world is now on top of my disadvantages in it, I doubt I ever will. I can at least budget though lol
Manager's pretty good ^_^ I would assume relatively stressful too tho -
I felt exactly that when I was in high school. I had a plan that was really my parents' plan... and it all went haywire when i realized i both physically and emotionally could NOT be a nurse for the rest of my life. the realization hit me when i had my preceptorship in 2021, and finally got a real taste of what it's like to be a nurse. it's like mainly documentation of everything and doing tasks that the doctors can't do because they're busy doing other things. it's also a lot of assessments and patient observation and patient care but in this society, the patient CARE has plummeted severely and i just didn't want to be apart of that system. it honestly felt like being around a bunch of robot nurses who go on autopilot at work and then just spend their time getting drunk on the weekend. it wasn't what i thought nursing was when it used to be my dream job.
I bet you'll be okay! It's all about perspective too. So have a positive mindset and try to think good thoughts because apparently our thoughts create our reality. Or so I'm told, and I'm starting to believe it. Ever since I went to counseling in college and my counselor taught me about cognitive behavioral therapy. He taught me that all the negative thoughts I have about myself and my life can be redirected and /or challenged. One example was that he noticed how my anxiety with always worrying about my parents dying in a car accident is actually just me being a caring person and loving my parents a lot. it made me realize that my anxiety of them dying just was rooted in my love for them. And then another example was how I was being hard on myself about school grades and he said well that just means that you are a good student who cares about grades. It really helps to get someone else's perspective on our own internal thoughts.
Yeah, if I were to have a family like that I would probably want to work a little bit anyway because tbh I don't plan on having children until I'm at least 28 years old. That's only 3 years away for me though so I might change that to age 30 lmao. I wanna have 2 kids by age 35 in a perfect world. I always think of how much of a commitment children are though so i would definitely want freedom with my partner before having them.
You ever see families that get married and have children like right away? That would be my nightmare!! It'd be like finally getting with your person you wanna spend the rest of your life with and then BAM, no time to spend together cuz of little kids running around needing to be taken care of TT__TT
Management does seem really stressful but I feel like I could handle it as long as they prepared me for it well and taught me all the ins and outs of the specific business. -
I'm sorry that you had that experience, really hard realizing something isn't what you'd hoped it would be.
Eh...I've never really found that to be the case in my life. If anything, 'thinking positively' has only ever just blinded me to problems I could've fixed before they became unfixable. I get trying to reframe what you can in a better light, but that isn't always necessarily better, just useful.
That's entirely reasonable! You've certainly got more of a plan than I do XD
Yeah, that would likely help quite a lot -
not doing the best but what else is new amiright or amiright
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It really was eye opening tbh
I can see how that's also possible. Becoming so positive minded that one forgets practicality and realism is definitely not good either.
I have a whole plan indeed. I try not to get too uptight about it, however, because I also like to just go with the flow in life
Yeah my work situation kind of sucks right now but I'm hoping things turn around some day. -
anyone else up and depressed
cuz same -
Sorry my friend...
I see how it would be, still sucks
Yeah, that's why I try to stay neutral, see the good where I can find it and fix the problems I can find.
That's understandable and a good way to go about things, I wish I had some sort of plan lol
Hey, at least it's not 'nothing' like me XD
yeppp, always... -
my doctor's appointment is tomorrow thank goodness
finally gonna get this stupid med reduced more
it's so hard to live while on it
it makes everything difficult for me -
That's true Alex, I'm thankful I do have a job. I almost went unemployed but by some miracle I have a job still even after landing myself in the hospital
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