Community wellness check-in
- Locked due to inactivity on Jul 5, '22 3:54am
Thread Topic: Community wellness check-in
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Thank you all for your replies. It makes me very sad to see so many negative impressions. I would love to hear what you guys think needs the most help here.
I personally feel like it's hard to express any opinion because even if your opinion is very middle of the road or considerate people will still get really offended and I feel like there's a lot of insecurities that get wrapped up in disagreements of any proportion. -
I'm also not allowed to say things I'm thinking on without being jumped on in my own thread. I've stopped making personal threads because people often came in and chewed me out if I spoke about things I really like or certain things I might not like, and I've gotten my feelings hurt from being called "desperate" and "obsessive". I've been bashed for my issues with speech, and called mean for not really interacting with others.
Basically, I could sit here and pretty much do anything, or nothing at all, and I end up with people jumping in my threads.
Some of this occurred in the past, and a lot of it is current. -
I feel that. I personally will not name names but there are certain users that even if they're not interacting with me directly I still feel their negativity from how they interact with others and it really dampens the mood. Some people really frustrate me with how close minded they are but I am still trying to be respectful and understand where they're coming from. I often wonder what experiences they might have had that shaped their current behaviors.
I'd love to direct this thread towards solutions but I'm really not sure how or if there's any good solutions to be had. -
I just don't connect with anyone besides my friends. It's a bit like how the new users are, they stick to their friend groups but if I do the same, I'm part of a clique. Don't judge me for sticking to my friends.
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There no judgement! I just wanted to get honest feedback on how people prefer to interact online. I am sorry if the tone of that came off as judgemental. I get sticking with friends it's only human. I just like to see how everyone is most comfortable.
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Mint, politely take your own advice.
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Yes absolutely. I believe that people tend to derive a feeling of acceptance from belonging to one of two kinds of friend groups. Exclusive and inclusive groups.
Exclusive groups are where you feel important because not everyone is allowed so you feel good for being one of the chosen few.
Inclusive is where you feel important for being accepting of everyone and good about sharing your space.
I don't think either kind of group are good or bad. It's all about where you feel the most accepted. Some people might not like being in an inclusive group because they wonder if the group chose them because they actually like them or they are just trying to be friendly.
For me clique behaviours are more cultish and does not include people who just have friend groups that they've build over shared experiences and natural bonding. -
@ angry citizen
I genuinely don't know what you're talking about but if you have a problem please tell me in a direct and respectful manner and not though an alt account -
Honestly, I'd rather not get into a debate with you because you make multiple members of this account severely anxious. You complain about other people's composure in arguments while playing devil's advocate.
The reason I'm in an alt, is this account is meant to voice the opinions of multiple people who struggle to properly explain their opinions on their own.
If you really need a name, I can reveal who I specifically am, but I will not name any of the others involved in this account. -
Tbh the behavior of that account is exactly why so many people said they don't feel comfortable on gtq.
I tried doing an nice thing and you can't just say 'your behavior makes us uncomfortable' with absolutely no context. I'm not trying to debate I just asked for an honest answer.
I don't need any further explanation I'll leave the site if people don't like me but are too scared to tell me to my face. Thanks. -
I make people anxious?
How?
I'm LGBT, accepting of all people and try to understand all sides of an argument. If that's a problem or you think I'm grandiose then I'm just going to leave. -
This account has been used only to call out lesbiphobic and transphobic behaviour that caused my friends distress. If that makes someone unsafe then they deserve to be unsafe.
I never said you made people uncomfortable, just that you make certain people anxious.
In the context of a debate.
I did not want you to believe this was a hate account, and the only reason I even used it to talk to you was I didn't want to log out of it right now.
I said something as you stopped doing a nice thing when you started critiscing other users for being "negative". You can't say you want everyone to feel safe, while also talking about someone you're not willing to name.
Genuinley, I don't want you to leave the site, and neither does anyone else. So I really hope you don't do that.
I won't be responding to further posts out of respect and a desire to not cause anymore distress to you.
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