New user treatment huh
- Locked due to inactivity on May 13, '22 3:54am
Thread Topic: New user treatment huh
-
TL;DR: the treatment towards new users is below acceptable in my eyes
I really wanted to bring this up, even though I feel like I've said it before. And I'm speaking as a person, not a moderator. But I'm just really disappointed in the treatment older users here give to any user who is new. This is not specific to one incident, as it has happened multiple times now and I can't help but admit that some behavior from new joining users that we've had to mark- has actually been a result of older users first provoking them, or giving them hostility and aggression for no fair reason. Teatime for example, I do admit- was first provoked by an older user who was coming after them and causing issues w them
Does that excuse all their behavior? No. But their behavior, or other similar behavior, should not be an excuse for an older users behavior either. This has happened more than once and it's not okay.
There have been many cases of new users being chased right off the site again . And it's just disappointing to see happen every single time. There's a few points I always see older users make. That troll accounts have given them "trust issues" with all new accounts and that it's just "annoying" and "disrespectful" of new users doing things like bumping threads, asking questions, going into ur thread.
First of all - your trust issues are not a strangers to manage. If you have issues, that's something you need to heal yourself instead of inflicting on everybody else. They deserve a basic level of respect. The level of respect you expect them to treat you with
Second of all. New users don't know the social "rules" of gtq or the site very well. The reason they annoyingly post so much and bump things- is because they WANT to engage with the community and chat. They want to join in on the community- not be shut out and shunned by it. Instead of yelling at them or blowing up in their face or giving constant passive agression and ganging up and more- consider directing them to one of our thread guidelines, or asking one of us to pop in and explain. We were all new once. I remember when some of yall annoyingly bumped threads and said some of the craziest things. Some of you guys were a pain, and so was I when I was new. It takes a little time.
Most new users probably don't bother reading every little pinned thread and guideline. They'll settle in eventually just like all of us did, it just takes time. You can't act suspicious of users when they do know how things work, and then also angry and bitter when they don't know LOL. That's backwards thinking.
Yall we can't complain about a dead site when the site implodes on any new user who steps foot inside it. So like,,, can we pls stop being so hostile and gatekeepy, and for the love of God please stop trying to come after new users and aggravating them. I don't feel like marking another new user because of that and the next time it happens to that extent, I'll probably say that we should mark you as well. Because honestly what is that -
Agreed. I hope I haven't contributed. I don't often actively engage with new users like I used to but I certainly don't want/intend to seem hostile in any way.
-
Is there anything I can do to help ?
-
100%. I completely agree. As an older user or older person in general, you have the responsibility to be the bigger person. "They were acting immature." Yes. Because they're younger than you and don't know better as well as you do. You acting immature back is worse than them being immature. Every single person here started out as the new user at some point. Show some grace and some compassion and treat others how you want to be treated.
-
i agree :/ like @alex3000, i dont really talk to new users that much, but i still dont see being aggressive/passive aggressive/etc. towards them isnt the best way to go.
we were those people too once, we do have to remember that and how we would feel if people acted negatively towards us when we were new and just wanted to talk to people -
I want to be the first to say too that I'm not holier than thou. I definitely still say and do things constantly that I have to look back on and wonder if I treated that person as well as I could or if my demeanour was condescending. I get that no one's perfect so all we can do is try to take accountability for when we do miss the ball.
-
I apologize for my behavior. I'm still working on it, alright? But I'll put more effort into being more hospitable.
-
I don't think I did anything to treat new users badly, but if I did, I apologize for my actions.
-
New users rarely come in my thread, but I only act more hostile(?) than I used to because of my history with new users.
Most of them that I've interacted with have called me harmful names or refused to leave my thread after saying rude things to another user. Or just talked s--- about other users in general.
At this point, I stopped interacting with new users entirely or just dont answer when they do attempt talk to me. I ignore new users, not act agressive towards them. No one should act agressive towards new users, but you can ignore them or ask politely for them to leave you alone.
I do apologize if I have made aggressive remarks, though. -
I totally could've been better about my treatment with newer users. I tend to be kinda cold towards them, even users who've been around for a few months, I need to quit the passive aggressive front
-
I know that I do this sometimes, and I’m sorry for being one of the users who, while I don’t start it, will be rude to new users. I’m really sorry for all the people they’ve been chased away from this amazing website, and I will not do it again.
It’s not acceptable behavior. To be honest, there really haven’t been any trolls recently. People consider TeaTime one, but we’re the ones who made them like that.
I remember bumping old threads when I first joined, because I thought it would make me fit in. We all just need to remember that we were all like that at one point, but we all eventually learned what people liked and disliked, and what people were comfortable and uncomfortable with.
You don’t learn “GTQ Etiquette” in a day. So again, I’m really sorry for adding onto the drama and constantly holding a negative attitude towards new users. -
I think I’ve been more well known as being guilty of being a little harsher towards the newer users and I can apologize for that. I really should’ve given them a chance, they’re all people like us. I’m also guilty of the whole trust issues thing, but I honestly have no right to blame any of it on that considering most of the reasons for my trust issues are events that didn’t take place on site. I can try- as I have been- to be less harsh to newer people but you should know that it might take a little more than it seems, which is probably why I’ll end up avoiding some. Not out of dislike just out of- I don’t know- wanting to stay out of drama and stuff? As much as I’d dislike to, I do remember how it was in my first few months here and I’d really hate to put anyone through that bulls--- again so I’m honestly just trying not to. I won’t downplay the new users, I’ll just… make interactions when I feel ready to.
-
I agree, we should be more welcoming to newbies. I remember what it was like to be the cringy nosy little newbie and it wasn't fun to feel ignored or be accused. I probably could have been more friendly to newcomers, and I'm very sorry if I was unkind to any of them :(
-
I remember that. They thought you me and Rayne were all the same person.
Honestly since my thread stopped being the Newb Magnet, I haven't been able to keep track of the new users as well and so I haven't been interacting with them as much in general.
I can remember a few cases where I was rather passive aggressive, though, and for that I'm sorry. -
The new people like me should stop treating the old people like crap also. I am sorry for my actions
This thread is locked, therefore no new posts can be made.
