The Dying Light
- Locked by Acrimony on Nov 7, '21 2:36amReason: Owners request
Thread Topic: The Dying Light
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Slash get out of my thread
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Slash, you have no business here. You know you're not welcome here. Kindly leave this thread.
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35 seconds? Hey that’s just plain unreasonable
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I have novice accounts lower that that
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And Cats, it's not cool to be so needlessly aggressive. I don't want to put you down. I need you to know I'm trying to help here. I spent a long time doing the same thing, but people will get tired of it. In the interest of your own future, you need to try. You can talk to me if you need to let off some steam sometimes. I struggle with rage myself, but I can't expect others to accommodate how I feel. Work with me, okay?
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I am trying, though. I’ve been trying for a while…
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That's good. But whatever approach you're trying is obviously not very effective. It's okay to slip up on your path to personal betterment, you just have to own up to your mistakes and adapt. I'm here for you if you need to talk, like I said. We can try to work on our anger problems together, if you like.
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…I’m not even taking a reasonable approach. I have to force myself to not say some things and sometimes it still doesn’t work. I don’t even know what I’m doing.
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That's okay! Let's talk about that. It seems like your anger is generally aimed at specific people, usually because you feel they've wronged you. The first thing I suggest is to try to see past your own interpretation of the situation and look at it from the perspective of the person you're angry at. Try to understand why they behaved the way they did. I've failed to do this a few times, admittedly, but I think it's an important step in managing how you feel about a situation.
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If I’m being completely honest with myself, I think I act the way I do because I’ve never actually been hurt by the things I’ve said to other people if for example they said those things to me. When someone cusses or yells at me I don’t feel anything. I just think I’m supposed to be angry and then I act like an angry person would and well now it’s instinct and I can’t stop myself and I don’t know why I do it.
I think my brain thinks that if those words don’t affect me they won’t affect other people and when they retaliate I retaliate back
I think I’ve felt anger. But I’ve never actually felt upset from those words. Maybe from others. I can’t exactly tell. -
I'm not sure how to teach you empathy, Cats. Anger, I can understand, but I don't know how to explain that you should consider how your actions will impact others. I think you might need to talk to someone more qualified than I for that.
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Oh ok
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Hey, I just want to say that I'm sorry for assuming your suspicions about Slash were nothing more than paranoia. I should have considered your side of it.
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It's fine... I probably should've not set off on them as soon as they posted again, though
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Probably not. It's good that you recognize that. All the same, I'm sorry I didn't believe you.
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