have you ever left someone unanswered?
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Thread Topic: have you ever left someone unanswered?
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Jinxyjinx NewbieI don't think people understand how much you can hurt someone by never responding to someone, especially when they said they would be your best friend and love you forever. (post is about someone on here, but I'm going to stay anon for obvious reasons)
I'm not trying to cause problems... just give me a straight answer... dont leave me hanging with conflicting emotions "will you talk to me and need time" "do you have any intention of talking to me again" "what did I do wrong?" "was I so bad?" "why am I the only one to care after you pushed so hard to be my friend?"
I feel like no answer is the worst, at least then I know.
If you cared for someone how could you ignore them for so long? so many months? I guess I was just never important enough... -
Jinxyjinx Newbie😢 I hate school
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What grade are you going into?
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I was going to comment last night but I passed out and didn't want to bump this thread--
I do leave people unanswered. And I've been unanswered. For me, it depends on the situation on whether I don't respond or not. Because I'm not going to respond to someone who has mocked, insulted, or hurt me and are trying to antagonize me into a response. However, sometimes, I simply can't respond for some reason and I have to leave someone hanging. Other times I don't know what to say and I just kind of avoid responding. But personally I don't think it matters what relation you have with the person in question. There are tons of reasons why people leave you unanswered. Sometimes you have to assume for the better and not the worst. -
Jinxyjinx Newbiehomeschooled and for this system theres not really a grade, just when you finish.
Idk I just wish they would give me an answer
And I understand someone who has wronged, but I asked them what I did wrong, and they had no answer /; just told me they would think about it, and its been so long since they replied, I can only help but assume they didnt care or its someone else telling them not to, his friend didnt like me because I honestly told him my opinion of him, and now all of a sudden they are best friends and the worst part is that he threatened to kill himself over their friendship and thats when the person stopped talking to me... just because I never said I would kill myself doesnt mean that im not hurting more then someone who will say it for attention. -
tbh I'm like your friend, my ex asked me for forgiveness, I said I'd think about it, still don't know how to word what I want.
However if your friend is the type of person who will believe that s--- and would ditch you because their friend told them to, you should really consider being friends with them. Your friends do NOT get to decide who YOU hang out with. If your friends tell you they don't like someone you do, it shouldn't matter. And if they're threatening death for a friendship, it's an abusive relationship that you should definitely avoid. -
*consider why you're being friends with them.
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Jinxyjinx NewbieI care about them, I wouldn't talk to them if I didn't. We have so many memories, inside jokes, gifts given, promises, its not something they to wrong me I dont think so at least. but at this point I feel led on, or like a lot of time has passed when they make up with others same day.
what do you want? did they hurt you or cheat on you, ive been cheated on before and being friends doesnt work out. -
Try asking them to be honest. Say that you're okay with giving them time, but they've been silent for a while. Mention that you care for them and that you don't want to have any unnecessary tension. If you aren't honest with how you feel, they might not realize the seriousness of it.
He didn't cheat on me or anything, I just wasn't happy with him. I was for the first month or two but during school and realizing how stressed he made me, I just.. I didn't want a relationship. And so he 1) got upset because I broke up with him over text and 2) said he could never be my friend because he'd be jealous of my next partner(s). A few days later, he tried calling me, messaging me on fb, and then even texted me. He wanted forgiveness. But instead of asking for it, he tried to guilt trip me and said "I know you've given other people second chances, so why not me?" and that pissed me off. He's a nice guy, but the age gap is extremely large, and I'm almost nervous to welcome him back into my life. I'm worried he'll ask me to date him again when I just want to be alone. -
Jinxyjinx Newbiebeing broken up in text isnt cool... from my feelings.
the rest isnt cool, I had an ex blow up my phone with messages everywhere constantly getting texting apps and creating new fb accounts spamming me hundreds of messages. I had to change my number and change all of my settings on SM to private... the worst part is that they had a girlfriend and had ignored me for so long while we were together he wouldnt talk to me for weeks then shoot me a short text not explaining why, never had time for me and that was the most stressful to me.
I personally dont care for age, people my age hurt me but my older brothers friends always were caring and understanding, i told more of my secrets to people twice my age then everyone mine. so i dont think its the same for me.
I dont think they ment to say the seconds chances thing to upset you
If he was so bad just tell him you dont want to talk to him. if he is nice and you dont want him completely out of your life then tell him you dont want to date him. I dont know the situation but it reminds me of mine, and its not cool to message you everywhere and to be calling you like that, id asked my ex so many times to stop, even called the cops on them and they couldnt do anything, so based on that id say dont do it. -
I was shaking and nervous so that's why I didn't call him. I knew it was a dick move but I didn't have the strength to call him and say it. Plus, my family was nearby, and they didn't know about us. So it would have been really bad for me to burst out yelling/crying in a call saying "I need to break up with you" with them around. :/
I had someone do that with kik, but they usually stopped quickly knowing I wasn't going to have it. I'm sorry you had to deal with someone like that. That doesn't sound very fun at all. I usually just block numbers because people usually only have a cell and home to bug you with.
I, too, don't care about age but my parents shot me down for it so I figured if I'm going to get them to like my partner I have to think about it too. Usually, for friends, age doesn't matter. However with how much I've told him I feel uncomfortable all of the sudden like that.
I'm aware he didn't mean to upset me, but I've been one to guilt trip and I know people who have tried to guilt trip me, so it makes me angry to see it happening all over again. I just really don't know what to say. Part of me wouldn't mind talking to him, but part of me is happy without him and doesn't want to deal with that. And with what you're saying I'm getting even more nervous, haha.. ^^'
But besides me, how are you doing? -
Jinxyjinx NewbieI'm sorry I did this to you and made you feel that way., you have your reasons I'm sorry to pry.
Not to well, but explainng how I feel might change how i feel -
Huh oh no it's okay. I needed to talk it out anyway. This thread was meant for you away. You didn't make me feel bad at all! Why apologize?
Well you've already started earlier, wanna say anything else? I'll listen. Just marking spam as well. -
Jinxyjinx NewbieI think I'm bothersome at thus point
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But why?
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