I don't know.
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Thread Topic: I don't know.
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Children.
I mean, a little while ago I decided I don't want children. That I hate children. That child birth scares me.
Now i just don't know.
I mean, I don't want a child because it's be painful and I want to live my life.
but I want a child, because I'm very motherly, and I think I'd be good at it. I want someone to pass my genes down, my family name, my skills and everything :(
But I'm so deathly afraid of childbirth.
I heard each birth takes a year off your life.
I want to live life to the fullest, have adventures, the works. not be weighed down by a baby. Now I just don't know anymore, and for some reason I'm on the verge of tears [b]I've heard of surrogacy as an option but I don't know if that's legal.[/i]
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Adoption is always the best choice because you would be saving someone who doesn't have a family life
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i KNOW that but I'm talking about my GENES and stuff like that.
i WANT to adopt but at the same time, i want a child of my own flesh and blood but i'm terrified of child birth, so technically, it's a lose lose for me. -
That's exactly how I feel :\
Think about this, think of the people who went through childbirth and enjoy their life. Childbirth may be painfu, but it's worth it in the end. The pain always makes you stronger. -
no im not scared of pain believe me
childbirth actually SHORTENS your lifespan by a year :| a year i want to make last. -
I think it'd be worth it, even for that one year.
Besides, you never know, you could get killed right after the event and that year wouldn't even matter. -
...you realize that just discourages me from pregnancy right?
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i know i'm not one to talk about child birth, but i know i want kids. i want to watch my little boy or girl grow up. I want to be there when they cry over their first skinned knee. I want to hold their hands during thier first steps. I want to see the looks on their faces when they get their first cars. I want to walk my daughter down the eisle or tell my son about me when i was his age. I want to share my life stories with my legacy. My legacy. The very proof that i was here. I want to have a blood related child. I want to look at my daughter and tell her how she has her mothers smile. I want to mess with my son and tell him he has her cheeks. I want to know that i helped bring that person into the world. My beautiful child. My pride and joy. I want to be a father.
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that's what i want.
but there are so many things stopping me. -
Well, unfortuently unless you want to adopt, child birth is apart of it all. Sure, it's scary but from what I've heard, the child birth is sort of worth it once you begin to actually raise the child o.e
And my best answer for the whole "wanting to live my life" thing is to wait until you're ready to settle down. I want a child when I'm around my 30's maybe, so that I can try and do what I want before I settle down to take care of a baby :D -
:/ yeah most likely i'll have a child in my 30s.
....mid to late thirties :| -
my parents had me when my mother was 16. I dont want to wait until i've settled down because if you always put something off until conditions are perfect, then you will never actually do it. No situation is perfect and no one ever really settles down. I want my first child in my mid to early 20's. I'll have a job and a home and that's settled enough for me.
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It may shorten your life span, but wouldn't you be happy with the child anyways? You'll see when you get older :3
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did i mention i hate children since i met my brother?
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if you honestly hated children you wouldnt be debating this. You're uncomfortable with the idea of children and hate the idea of yours turning out like your brother.
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