what do i do if i think i am becoming bi
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brivolbn7q Newbieso i am female & have been straight 4 long time but now i am starting 2 see hot girls and get crushed on them and i rly like les p--- now
do i tell my family? or should i just make myself stay straight cuz i couldnt imagine myself actually fall in luv with girls
my best friend is lesbian so i feel sorta bad that im straight when i know she wants to go further and im rly close with her too so its not that weird to say "i rly luv u" and turn it from friend luv to gf luv ig?
every1 says u shud be urself but im not sure that i actually am lesbian or just succumbing 2 peer pressure does that make sense? like sometimes being urself is not always best thing 2 do
so idk if im bi or lesbian or just confused rn
thx 4 whatever help u can give
maybe its a stage im going thru and it will pass
hope this makes sense ik my typing isnt best -
My views on sexuality have changed drastically. We live in a society that has elevated sexual urges so highly that it becomes the defining part of our identities. If we feel something, it must be part of what makes us unique, and we should therefore give into it and affirm it.
What an empty life that brought me to. The pleasure of it is fleeting, and not built upon real love. Lust isn't love. It won't bring you lasting satisfaction. It slowly kills us. I hated anyone who dared to question if my identity was really based on love, because of course they just didn't understand and were being hateful.
It wasn't until I learned how much better agape love is than eros love that my heart changed. I fell in love with Someone much greater. There's a better life to live than being a slave to my flesh. Sex isn't a bad or sinful thing in the way it was purposefully designed. It reflects a glorious, perfect love. But outside of that design it is destructive. Fire is good to heat your home and give light, but outside of a candle or a fireplace it burns down your house.
So as someone who once identified as all four letters of LGBT at different points in my lifetime, and have finally found freedom in sexual purity, I admonish you not to settle for a life that will leave you empty. I also don't think you should run out and seek fleeting relationships with guys either. I honestly know what you're going through, but you're valuable. You're worth infinitely more than just being a sexual object. -
Alright, I'll give my two cents on this:
When I was about 12 or 13, I started to develop a crush on my best friend and just like you, I have only liked guys until this point. I just really wanted to kiss her and hold her hand because I thought that she was really pretty and fun to be around and like you, I was super confused and scared because I thought that I was gay and I didn't know what to do. So I never told anyone about this crush on her and I started to get crushes on guys again.
Few years pass and I developed another crush on one of my close girl friends and was like "wtf is wrong with me why am I like this?" And then got over that crush too
So basically, I have come to the conclusion that I am more inclined to like guys and want to date guys, but I do find some females attractive.
And what I want to tell you is that you don't have to label yourself. You're gonna like who you like no matter what form they come in. And while I feel like most people have the need to identify and put themselves into a category, I've always hated that. I prefer men, but if I end up with a woman, then I end up with a woman because love is love. I don't identify as bisexual or straight or gay or whatever else. I'm just me and I hate it when people are like "well, you might be *insert whatever sexual orientation here*" because I personally think that it's stupid.
But don't worry about it right now. You sound like you're confused, so I wouldn't come out to anyone because if you do and then you figure out that you're not that, people are probably gonna get on you about it. Just relax and let the emotions run through you and don't try to fight them because that's only going to make you more stressed and panicked about it. Whatever happens, happens. And there's not much you can do to change that.
I don't know if I made any sense. I feel like my thoughts were all over the place, but I hope this helped in some way. -
brivolbn7q Newbieomg thx so much yeah that rly helped
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