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Victoria3214 NewbieI'm Victoria, i'm 17 and I need advise. I dated a boy all through my freshmvn and sophomore year. We broke up halfway through sophomore year (now both juniors). He was the best guy possible, I mean, he cared about me, would give me his jacket when I was cold, listen to me when I was upset, deal with my moods (I have a very bad temper), and just so talented in general. I got more involved into the band program at school so I didn't have any time to just go out and talk to him, and he had work too so we started drifting away. He would text me but I would be so dead from practice I would just sleep and forget about the text and he would get upset and be serious two or three days later. He later started doing that to me and it hurt. I later had to move to a new town because my grandma found a house for a good price (we lived in apartments since our economy wasn't very well at that time)
I went through depression during this timr because my mother had passed, I didn't want to know anything about anyone so I just shut him out for the next few months.
I eventually texted him again but he seemed distant and was always with friends. He would just respond with "that's cool. Oh. A. I see. Cool. Mhm. That's great. I'm good. Cool. Cool. Great. Ah. I see." Nothing longer than that.
This really upset me and I asked what was wrong he responded nothing what's wrong with you
I probably shouldn't have done it, but I responded with the news of my mother.
He asked me when and I told him what was going on
Then he started sending like twenty messages saying he didn't understand why I didn't tell him. He was mad and upset at the same time.
We stopped talking even less after that. We had a send a message reply two weeks later with "kay cool oh i see"
This on and off texting went on for about 4 months.
Aventualy I asked him via text one day if he was tired of me because he was never there
This was the fastest he ever responded
He responded with there are a lot of cute guys around you you can find one closer to you so that he can support your emotions.
After a few more texts, we broke up.
I was extremely depressed and moody for the next few months. AI had grown really attached and cared about him so much. I honestly felt like it was my fault for moving, hiding things from him, isolating myself. I cried a lot for him, and a couple of friends from his school told me he has sad and not himself anymore. A guy friend that knew what was going on and everyone from the other school knew liked me since the beginning of high school too and was going to ask me out but I started dating my ex so he kind of backed away from me, he started texting, emailing, calling, and even having his parents drive him over here to my house to help me and told me everything was going to be fine. After a couple months of this he asked me out, and I said yes because I thought I was over my ex. We've been dating for three months now, i've been happy with him, he treats me well, snuggles me a lot, always asks if i'm okay, brings me teddybears on aniversarys, i'm happy with him, I couldn't ask for more.
A couple days ago I got a text from my ex which is why i'm here.
He said that he started drinking and doing drugs and he wasn't going to stop until I broke up with the person i'm with right now.
He called me crying and drunk telling me he was sorry and that hw wanted me back.
This upset me because this isn't like him. He doesn't do this. He never drank or did bad things, he was a good boy.
Deep down I still care, but I don't know what to do. I don't know if I should tell my boyfriend about the text or just let it be ignored. What should I do? -
Okay. Look. You need to weigh out your options
1. So your ex: Do you still love him and want him back?
2. Do you like your current boyfriend even more than your ex?
Things like thus aren't easy. You just need to know which one you want more. Whoever you want more will give you the results. You could break up with your current boyfriend because you still have feelings for your ex. Or you can just ignore the text and move on. Just know that if you still love your ex then that is going to interfere with your current relationship. I know that this wasn't much help but ita kind of a start.
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