Dear girls and haters, please help me | Comments

Oh dear... :( I don't actually have too much experience in this kind of matter. I mean, I'm definitely not "cool" or "popular" in my school, but my few friends and I don't stick out. I think that one of the best courses of action, as Miss Carrot said, would be to tell somebody. Maybe not a teacher, at this point (or maybe, I don't really know your situation :/), but telling your friends how you feel might be a good start. If they knew that they were treating you like crap and being complete jerks, they could realize that they're turning into typical high school bullies and stop excluding you. Of course, this doesn't always work, and since I don't know them, their reactions might be negative. If this is the case, you might want to tell a parent or respected teacher/counselor/p arent. I'm not saying that they'll be able to knock some sense into your "friends", but they might be able to give you some really helpful advice or more. I wish you the best of luck and I hope that you're treated better from now on. :) Please don't change who you are to "fit in" - if they don't like the as much as they should, that's their problem. You sound like you're a really nice person, and I'm sure you'd be able to get better friends than that. :)

*hugs singin* awh, girly =( we're here for you

Teenage years = the years of feeling unsure about where you belong and what to do, and there's two ways to deal with it: be yourself or act like you know what you're doing. Those girls sound like they fall into the second category. They probably do have insecurities that they won't fit in and hate and giggle and exclude others because they feel better when they can feel like they're superior to someone else. It's a sad way to turn out in life, and I've found the best way is to ignore them, be strong, be witty, and find the people who will accept you for who you are. Whatever you do, stay sweet and true, and don't let the bitterness get into you ( that rhymed o.o )

(and call me up if someone needs a lesson in not bullying others *cracks knuckles* no one should belittle others, especially my GTQ family >;/)

Have any of you been to Cathlic school before? It was HORRIBLE. In my first few years I had friends, then I ended up at the bottom of the food chain. I always got detention because of those kids (And other personal reasons). They made fun of me, spread rumors about me, scared me (I was little). Surprisingly Public school is better, but not by much. At least now I don't come home every day saying "Moooooom, can I have homeschooling?"

Girl, why didn't you come to me? You know I'm always here for you, whether it's day, midday or midnight. I'm always there to help you with anything you need. All I need to say right now is that those "friends" need to calm their bones. If they don't like you, they have serious lack of judgement. They're trying to act older than they actually are. I never saw the point in hating anything, EXCEPT TWILIGHT. Gah, I hate that crap. Singin, you are beautiful and amazing and if they can't see that, turn to other friends who respect you for you. Turn to friends who are there, who will be there to catch you when you fall, to scold you like a mother when you're in trouble, to play like a sister, to act like a father. True friends matter. Find them deep within singin *hugs*

Jump to the sky! x

Ok first of all let me say you are not alone, I have been gossiped about last year but now I'm actually friends with the people who were mean to me. What I did was I told my parents to tell the teacher for me because I was too scared but the teacher told the girls who were mean to me and now we r actually really good friends. So either tell your parents, teacher, giudeance councler, or someone you trust. Also try. These suggestions kill them with kindness, fight hate with humor, just ignore them, stand up for your self, and most important stay strong and stay beautiful!

You know I keep noticing that you wrote "so-called friends" and I'm not saying I know everything, but to me that sounds like sometimes they're your friends, and other times they're bullies. If this is the case, stop hanging out with them. It's not good for you and them, and I mean it! You may be wondering why I included them into the "not good" zone. Well if bullies are close to their victims and have access to them in any way and know all about them... well they're not going to turn out good people if they're being tempted. Now granted, they should know better, and in either case you should just end those relationships from the get-go. Speaking of bullying, if none of the strategies work that Miss carrot suggested (which are great if you just want them to bugger off) then here's the very last resort to get them to stop bugging you. If they ask you a question, or make an insulting comment do the following (remember, this is LAST RESORT) 1. look them in the eyes 2. make a really creepy face while looking them in the eyes 3. keep staring at them until they're really uncomfortable 4. if they ask "what are you looking at?" reply "That's what I'm trying to figure out" and simply walk away. This works really well if you can pull off a really creepy face without looking in the mirror. I did this once, and the person hasn't bugged me since. It's all in the face. If they approach you again, then go out with a bang. By that I mean 1. cross your arms 2. pull off a scary angry face 3. whatever they say, DO NOT RESPOND just keep looking as mean and scary as possible. If you accidentily respond, walk away with as much attitude as possible. Again, it's all in the face. If neither of these work, either practice your creepy/scary/angry looks or talk to an adult. Remember these are only last resort, and this isn't nessesarily the typical "standing up for yourself" route, but these have worked for me in the past. Just remember to not go overboard, and once again, this is LAST RESORT!!

@singin

Well usually those people are just insecure about them selves so they have to pick on other ppl to make themselves feel better. Or they might have something bad going on in there lives so in the end they are the ones with problems not u hope this helped!

omg so many long comments.. here's mine

if they Are "so called friends" its better if you don't cling around! don't take all there bulls---.. stick it to their face.. let me tell u the truth - no one cares.. u've got to tell them that u don't need them.. i went thru the same.. but i just realized i have so many ppl who love without my being fake n crying... u jus need to be happy okay.. talkin like this only makes people think you are an attention whore or some sympathy seeker... peace!