let's talk "Pretty Privilege"
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Thread Topic: let's talk "Pretty Privilege"
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Doesn't it bother you that better-looking ppl have easier lives.
Talking about society in general.
It's the little silent things, like idk they be getting more smiles, they're more welcome, respected just cuz of their face ; where it can get to: getting a job promotion, getting out of trouble easily just because of certain looks.
It gets worse... The way kids get treated based on their looks. As adults there's more stability but with children... I mean, COME ON!
Even in families, parents unconsciously preferring a kid over the other. It's so heartbreaking. -
It's hard to not be charming yet found attractive at the same time. To each person, I appear on the total opposites. In some cases, I've been so ugly to someone that I was rejected from a job because I didn't look like I fit. It was a job at a spa as an intern. In other places, I've been offered jobs I have no experience in just because someone "would die for a [person] with [my] pretty face."
No matter which end of the spectrum I'm on, it makes me loathe society and I feel that I'm nothing more than my body to others. -
I once sat on a banana
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It was very unacceptable of me
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It was extremely unprofessional
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as unfortunate as it is, beauty is kind of like a social currency. i grew up kind of outside of the beauty standard and as i grew older, glowed up a bit and learned makeup, there's for sure changes in how people treat you.
more people started to talk to me/wanted to be my friend, i got more attention in general. things like that. it hurts to think that my younger self was treated differently just because of how she looked and that she expressed herself differently.
humans are inherently a pretty shallow species. no one deserves to be treated worse based on their appearance. -
Never been considered attractive enough to get any privilege. Probably would help if I was white.
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Its still in my favourite sweater
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Im so sad
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I think people who have pretty privilege don't really know how blessed they are šš
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There's been a lot of studies about this which statistically proved that "prettier" people get treated better. I remember hearing about this one study that broke me completely where they asked children what their biggest fear was and about 90% answered being fat. I'm not sure if it was children or maybe only girls.
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^ speaking a little bit on ""being fat"", i lost a lot of weight over the course of the last two years (roughly 80lbs/36kg). it wasn't through the healthiest of means, i basically went from overeating to undereating. however at the time i have never gotten so many compliments in my life telling me how healthy and fit i looked. i felt awful, fatigued every day.
here recently i found a healthier balance with food and have gained maybe 15lb/6kg. i've had one person tell me i'm "already losing track". idk, me personally, i like to compliment people on things that they choose. for example, if they painted their nails a nice color or wore pretty shoes. i hate how comfortable yet uncomfortable we've all become as a society talking about our weight -
i can speak on it from a POC perspective
i grew up in a fishing community so you can imagine the demographic. itās also around middle school time when kids were addicted to insults and insecuritiesā also the 2010s were much more ruthless than youād think about bullying.
i got a pretty good brunt of it due to my neurodivergence, my race AND ethnicity, but something i always noticed that if someone couldnt bully me, it was my appearance they attacked. i looked weird, my features were off, i didnt know how to dress, i make myself look weird cuz i already look funny,, yall remember the usage of fugly?? i digress before i get on the really abhorrent things i went thru
thatād be all well and goodā if there werenāt like a small handful (like four or five) of other ppl male and female who looked pretty similar to me and were considered VERY attractive in middle school. the ones i remember most was this one girl who had similar features to me, just on lighter skin and a slimmer more eurocentric face and a looser curl pattern
the other i remember was a guy, his skin was slightly lighter than mine and he looked p similar period just with normal ears and short coily hair and he was one of the āhotā boys.
i never understood why it was so awful for me to look and act and be the way i was when the others could be themselves and be respected and accepted. it wasnt until i learned more about pretty privilege across marginal lines that i could make sense of it.
(ex 1. literally if i lost my ethnic features i woulda been bullied less. ex 2. blck AFABS are commonly masculinized and rejected. that dude coulda been my twin and heād be hot and iād be the weird twin who ālooks like a hesheā. not kidding ab the ruthless thing)
sometimes i wonder if my content would reacher quicker if my skin tone was lighter or if i could relate to the blck american crowd. iāll never know tho obviously and i kinda dont care bc i slay and im a multifaceted and interesting person.
thatās the little lesson in there for anyone who read this far xP
hope this helps xx
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