Positive and helpful advice on mental health, managing,
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Thread Topic: Positive and helpful advice on mental health, managing,
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Doing it here as well, because mental health and personal care in life is also very important
Like the relationship thread, adult users are welcome to put positive and helpful advice in here for the younger audience at any point in time where they feel like sharing, for anything which may help our younger users. From topics like grief, school stress, anxiety, coping, traumatic events, managing our emotions, confidence, mental illness and health, receiving help, etc etc etc.. the list could go on forever, but you get the idea !! :) -
There is no time limit to healing, understanding and accepting trauma. Our journeys are all different, individual and unique to us. Your life will never be an exact mimic of somebody else's, so we should not expect our healing process to be as fast or slow as other people's either. It is unique to you and will take as long as it needs to. Trauma is painful, it is okay if a week, a month, a year or several years later, you still feel upset and affected by it. On the same note, it can also take ages to gain the confidence to speak out about something traumatic that happened to you, trauma has a funny way of shutting us down sometimes. No matter how long you took to say something, it does not make your story or pain any less valid. Don't beat yourself up for not being able to say anything sooner, you spoke up when you felt ready to, the fact you overcame the silence and spoke up about it, is the most important part and you deserve to feel proud of that.
Strangers on the street aren't all out there just waiting around to judge you. Humans are often so involved in their own lifes that they're not even going to remember if you did something awkward or stood out or if they glanced at you briefly, nor are they likely to even all decide to stare at you and judge you for no reason. So go ahead and dress in those clothing you were worried people would judge you for or you were worried would make you stand out. Don't sweat over awkward conversations or how you said "enjoy your meal" to your server in a restaurant or whatever other awkward encounters you have had with strangers, I can assure you they're going to quickly forget about it or not even acknowledge it in the first place. Or they're not going to actually care about it too much at all! And once again, remember that the random strangers walking around are more invested in their own lives than the lives of other random people they walk past on the street like you or me, or anyone else -
I like that ^
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Ac this is so sweet and I'm so thankful for this, tysm for this
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Just a cute reminder that your problems and mental health are not an inconvenience to share with your parents.
A good parent, or a normal parent, will want to know when their child is struggling. They will want to know if their child needs help or feels insecure, alone or upset within themselves and as we grow older, it does become harder for parents to pick up on the hints that we are feeling down, or struggling with something. Mental illness likes to hide in the darkest corners of ourselves and to make you feel like you should keep it hidden and not call out for help when you desperately need it.
But a normal parent, like I said, will want to know when you are in pain so that they can help you. You are not an inconvenience when you want to tell your caretaker you are struggling. They are your caretaker, their role as your parent, is to help you and care for you. Even adults, still need to turn to their parents for advice or help sometimes. You are never too old, nor too mature, or independent to no longer be able to turn to your parents for help. And as I said before, a good parent will listen, and try to understand you.
Treat yourself like how you would treat a person in your care. Like you are responsible for feeding this person, making them feel loved, and making sure they're ok. If you would treat a loved one to a slice of cake, treat yourself to one as well. If you would forgive a loved one for making a mistake, forgive yourself as well. Living a life where we are constantly mean, dismissive and withholding from ourselves, is exhausting. It burns out our self esteem and energy, it makes us feel bad and we become a victim of our own treatment. It's a cycle which will always leave us sad and feeling empty. The way we treat ourselves has the same effect as the way we treat other people. Because we are people too. Constantly belittling a friend would make them feel insecure and hurt their self esteem. Constantly doing that to ourselves, will have the same effects on us as well. It's no different. So treat yourself like you are somebody in your own care. Treat yourself like you would a loved one, or a friend. It is most definitely, more fulfilling, than treating ourselves in a way which only inflicts pain and suffering on ourselves -
This is really helpful. Tysm Mei 💖
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