Cats17's thread
- Locked by axelbeans on Dec 5, '20 11:42amReason: request =^-^=
Thread Topic: Cats17's thread
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Well, I'm sorry, but I don't believe I can see you that way anymore. Once I'm upset, or mad, or- I don't even know anymore. I just can't see you as anything but a moderator now.
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Then see me as a moderator, for all I care. But I'm a moderator who wants to help you learn to channel your emotions in a healthy way.
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Oh, you don't know how I see moderators do you-
Not all of them. I see Road as a friend, though she does not trust me, I'm pretty damn sure. -
No, I don't.
Road uses they/them pronouns. -
Fine. I see them as people who are there, always watching, there to either take the fun out of everything possible or at least make someone upset in the process of whatever they're doing.
Happy? -
We aren't here to spoil your fun.
I can do my best to explain why the situation that unfolded today was bad, but you'll have to be patient, as it will require a bit of typing. -
I can see I can't exactly stop you
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I want to say this while I'm thinking of it-
If you don't learn how to communicate with your friends without guilt tripping, blaming, yelling, etc., you're going to have a really hard time when you grow up. Conflict is inevitable, but conflict can be healthy if you learn how to handle it properly. -
Ha. Not really. If you avoid everyone you hate, or everyone who hates you, there is no conflict. Magic.
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The joke about "war" wasn't the issue. It was fun. I had fun participating.
It becomes a problem when you start being aggressive towards others. For example, you did not see Emy's posts as a joke. Rather than asking her to clarify ("Hey, are you going along with my joke, or are you genuinely hurt by what I said?"), you assumed she was making fun of you and you got aggressive. That was problem #1, which made us have to monitor you.
The second problem occurred when you posted about a triggering topic. Many of us have self harmed. Many of us have faced traumatic events and things that keep us up at night. You are not alone. But when you say things so casually, or word them in a way that it comes off as a joke, you end up invalidating the things others have faced. You can invalidate someone both intentionally or unintentionally. You may not have intended to word your posts in a way that would cause others pain, but you did. And that is why we had to step in. -
Avoiding people will not result in no conflict. Even healthy relationships have conflict.
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sadly, you can’t just avoid everything.
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please read and reread what Jill just said. please
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That's what I was doing!
And what did I post that was triggering?
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