So, it's been awhile
- Locked due to inactivity on Apr 10, '17 3:54am
Thread Topic: So, it's been awhile
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I am not too sure why I was suddenly reminded of this place, but I decided to check on it anyways tonight at like 1AM, and it honestly makes me kind of sad. I made my account about 5 years and 3 months ago, and I think I have just been witnessing this place go down the drain. Even at 1AM, it use to be buzzing with life, but now it's like a graveyard. I remember staying up till 3AM talking to my friends on here till I could no longer stay awake and then this would be the first place that I checked as soon as I woke up (on like the second generation iPod touch too, and occasionally I would get on here via my super cool slide phone that I had), and getting so excited and having a sense of belonging whenever we would have those late night conversations, but now there's no one doing that.
But I think what makes me even more sad is the fact that most of the threads on The Lounge are those "My Thread" ones (and don't get me wrong, I had one too, and I totally understand the need to just vent out all of your problems without wanting to annoy everyone by spamming the forum). But I think that most of us found our way here because we were lonely and didn't know how to express ourselves through that speaking form of communication in real life, and I'm now just seeing that having the "My Thread" thing is making us more secluded. When you have one of those, it sort of gives off the impression that you don't want anyone to talk to you, and if you're not talking to people in real life and you're not talking to people on here, then how do you expect to get help with your problems?
Another thing that's just been bothering me lately and it has nothing to do with this place whatsoever, is that I don't think people really understand what it's like to be introverted. Being introverted doesn't mean that you're quiet and it doesn't mean that you don't like talking to people/get nervous when someone talks to you. That just means that you're shy. Being introverted means that you physically cannot be around people for some amount of time. I actually like talking to people (and I do talk a lot and make jokes whenever I can) and I love learning about other cultures and about the experiences that other people have had, but I physically cannot be around people for a long time. My head starts hurting if I'm around a couple people that I've just met and I've been talking to them for about an hour. I have one class this semester that is three hours long, and we have to work with the people at our table, and I absolutely dread going to that class because I know that about half way through it, my head will start to hurt and I'll start to feel sick. And that kind of sucks because I actually like the two girls at my table and we all seem to get along, but my head starts hurting every time I'm in that class, and I just go home and lay on my bed because that headache will last for the rest of the day. An introvert is someone who recharges by being by themselves. It doesn't necessarily mean that you don't like talking to people.
(Also, Hwarang is really good, and if any of you are watching it, please tell me because I am totally down to fan girl about this because I binged watched 11 episodes in one day, and I might have a problem). -
I disagree. You can be socially timid and introverted at the same time. You have an inability to socialize while you can't seem to stay in a conversation or group setting for a specific period of time. There's varieties of people who have conflicting traits but they can still be an introvert otherwise.
I'm so glad you're back. This website irritates me, and what you said was so accurate that this thread should be pinned for everyone to read. I mean, it doesn't make any sense. I mean I exclude myself on here, I'm guilty of hiding myself in my thread for quite some time. But at least I make an effort to clog The Lounge with threads where many people are free to respond. I mean the main reason why people continue to exclude themselves is because of the habit being normalized on here. Everyone has their own certain group they chat away with while others can't seem to accept or let the others fit in based on condescending superiority. Either if we bring this problem to prominence, nobody listens. And if they don't want to listen, they reap what they sow. They come on here to escape boredom and to relieve solitude, but they do that by only being exposed to their own s---posting in their own individual thread. To put in a way, they are all self-centered and are so consumed by their little bubble that they can't afford to pop it. -
Oh yeah, I'm not saying you can't be socially timid and introverted at the same time. Sorry if it came off like that. I just meant that just because you're shy doesn't mean that you're introverted and just because you're introverted doesn't mean that you're shy. But you can totally be both.
I probably won't be back for long. Maybe a day or two? Because I'll probably end up forgetting again and then be consumed in homework.
People being in groups on here have been around for a very long time, but I feel like at least back then, it was still possible to talk to someone outside of your group. Now it seems like all everyone does is post in their own thread and they won't even make an attempt to start a conversation with someone new. Which makes me kind of go "aww, that really sucks" because you never know if someone out there needs a friend, or just someone to talk to. I do agree with it being self centered a little bit. Having the "my thread" makes it seem like you can only talk about the user who made that thread when you're in that thread, which is probably what created this cycle of people making their own threads because they couldn't talk about their problems or say what they wanted to without getting yelled at or ignored when they posted in other people's threads. -
It also seems like there is a lot less people on here, and that's kinda saddening too.
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Yep, it seems a lot of people left while I took a break, so I have no idea why it happened. I'm kind of happy about it though, seeing as there isn't as many annoyances on here anymore. Trolling is hardly an issue anymore, so that's an upside as well. It does get inactive on here a lot more, though. Tends to just... Die, in a sense. At least some people are getting on with their lives.
Oh, nice to see you, by the way. -
Yeah, pretty much everyone is gone. That's true about the trolling, but I also feel like it sort of brought everyone closer in a way.
Nice to see you too, but I'm sorry because I can't remember who you are.
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