need....help.....
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Thread Topic: need....help.....
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I am not exactly one to text or anything, I'm just not big on having to respond to things. This friend, I have been friend with for roughly 4 years. We fought once and didn't talk for a few months, and then I stopped talking to him and started again in September. When I started, I remembered why I stopped talking to him in the first place. He doesn't have investing conversation and is always, always, always mopey. I'm not the most happiest person on Earth, of course, but I try my best to help him and he never opens up or even ever really says what's wrong, but he is quick to tell me that he isn't okay, but he won't let me help at all. I honestly do not like talking to him, but I'm not sure what to do. My first thought was to just block his phone number and all social media, but I'm not sure if that's what I should because that is what I did before. :-( halp
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try sending dick pics?
jk, uh--
If you isn't satisfying you as a friend, you should just slowly remove them from your life. He's probably going through a ruff time and something pretty mentally detrimental or has extreme trust issues. -
mmmmm yes that would fix everything :9
it seems like he has always been going through a rough time. and i certainly was, but now that I feel a lot better and still am trying to help, he just isn't having it. and he gets mad when I don't respond, so I ain't tryna have that.
how to slowly do it? what does that mean, like responding less and less? i already don't respond a whole lot anymore :// -
Don't just block him.
Either tell him or, as you said, just respond less and less. Maybe block him once you haven't spoken for a little bit. But don't do it out of nowhere. -
i'd slowly ease my way out of it, just respond less and less, and block him when you haven't spoken for a while. just sort of... slide out of there. subtly.
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okay, I shall do it that way. Slowly but surely.
I feel so bad because he isn't a bad person but he just isn't a friend for me :// I like not having an obligation to respond to things and he deserves someone who will always respond
am i bad friend?
idk i think so -
b---- people already established that br0wnie
lolol tu es tres stupide lololol -
Le1F Messenger Newbietell truth
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I disagree with "easing out slowly" as everyone else is suggesting. There is no worse pain than being slowly cut out. It's the worst feeling ever once someone realizes that's what is going on. To put it in a story-like concept:
You've known this person for over 4 years. You value them greatly. You've had your ups and downs, and you've always had a fear of doing something that your friend will leave you for, but they never say anything so you slowly let that fear pass away. You throw them a few messages, they respond as well. This back and forth conversation doesn't last long, but it's okay. You have tomorrow to talk to them. Maybe they're just busy. The same thing happens the next day. And the next. Weeks pass, and you're both talking less. Your fear of you being the problem comes back. And suddenly, a day comes where there is no response. You realize that this entire time, they've been preparing to cut you off. You desperately message them. "What's wrong with me? What did I do wrong? Please respond. I miss you. You're my friend. I'll do anything." But nothing. And just like that, you've been removed from their life, and you've lost the person you thought was your best friend.
Now, I don't know your friend, so I don't know if he'd feel that way or not. But I do know that if he would, he'd likely feel miserable for a long time. And you don't want that. If he's the type of person willing to talk it out, explain to him how you're feeling. Tell him exactly what you've told us. Yes, the truth hurts, but at least you aren't avoiding the issue and you might even help him realize that he hasn't been meaning to act as he has been. -
crikey darketh i think you're right
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Le1F Messenger NewbieI said it 1st :(
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you, too, le1fy poo, you too
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I may or may not be. After all, as I said, idk your friend enough to know if that would work.
However, if he ends up not understanding, or he doesn't show any improvement in his attitude that would make you want to be his friend, that's definitely time to cut him off- slowly or right then and there, either. There's a time when you should focus on yourself, and if you've already tried to hear him out and he didn't want to listen, he's definitely not a good friend and there's no need to drag anything out. -
he isn't much of a talker but hopefully he will talk this one out because it is needed
thank you for the advices -
Well, good luck to you. I hope he'll hear you out this time around.
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