Me is confused about this situation
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Thread Topic: Me is confused about this situation
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So hi, I’d like to start this off by saying that I’m an adult. The situation involves me and a coworker. Basically, I am confused on if he actually likes me or not. When I first met him, he was like immediately teasing me about all sorts of things and then I later found out that he was seeing someone else (another coworker) but he still just continued to tease me so I was like okay, this is just his personality. And then I think him and the girl he was seeing broke up because she moved away and she didn’t want him to come with her because they had only been seeing each other for a month or two. So he was kind of sad for about a week and then he went back to being his normal, playful, teasing self. However, I noticed that this teasing has increased in terms of how often he does it. Like he talks to me more and usually everything he says is making fun of me in someway (all light-heartedly and I definitely give it back to him). But there was a point after that girl left and he started joking around with me again that made the thought of “is he trying to rebound with me?” Because I’ve had guys in the past that seem to latch onto me after they break up with their girlfriends and I don’t know what vibe I’m giving off to make them do that or if I’m just there and easy to talk to that makes them think they can just transfer their unresolved feelings that they had towards their ex-girlfriends onto me. But yeah, with this guy though, I noticed that he’s never tried to touch me (like you know, playful touches on the arms or giving hugs and stuff like that). I have noticed that he looks at me more often though. But the other thing is that he has a friend here (who’s another coworker but in a different department) and I’ve noticed that he’s been trying to talk to me more and he is now asking me how I am doing whenever I see him (which he hasn’t given me more than a nod in acknowledging my presence for the past month) and so yeah. Basically, I don’t know what’s going on and might be over analyzing everything because that’s just how I am
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So I think that the friend might actually have some interest in me because I’ve noticed that he’s been staring at me more recently and it would make more sense as to why the other guy has been teasing me more and joking around with me more often because he might be trying to get his friend to be more comfortable around me I guess is the word. Because he’s been teasing me more when his friend is around and maybe the friend thinks that I’m intimidating or something or that I’ll never go for a guy like him because he’s a couple inches shorter than me and I did overhear him say to someone else that he wishes he was taller, so that might be an insecurity that he has. So his friend might be trying to help him out and be like “see? You can joke around with her all day, she’s not intimidating.”
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You know what I think?
I think you should tell this person you like them! It would get it off your chest and you would know how he feels about you instead of staying up all night worrying about it!
Of course I’m a hypocrite when I say this xD. But I’m just a nervous wreck. TvT -
I would love to. The major issue with doing that is that 1) we work together and 2) we’re both moving away to different parts of America in about a month and a half and I’ve never been someone who can do short term relationships because I got trust issues and am very slow at opening up. However, I am trying to work on that part of myself and just letting things happen, so I feel like if a relationship with him were to present itself to us, then I would go for it and see what happens
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The friend was making more eye contact with me today and we had more small conversations (him just joking about how much I run around the store and asking how many miles I do each day). And I felt my face go red during one conversation because he was just staring straight in my eyes and I got all shy and then thought “of course my face is going to go red now” and that hasn’t happened since I liked this one guy a few years back
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Sorry if this is confusing
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Nah it’s fine, I understand, even as just a 13 year old.
But you should tell them, whether or not you’re going to be separated or not in a month. You never know, it could work out long distance. And when it does, thank me lol. -
I think I’m just going to try and hang out with him more and be more flirty to see his reaction and then see what happens from there. I think this way it won’t make things awkward between us at work in case he doesn’t and I also don’t want to scare him away by being like “hey, you wanna go out?”
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