I'm afraid of commitment.
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Thread Topic: I'm afraid of commitment.
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CastingAnchors NoviceWhenever I enter a new relationship or such with a girl or guy I have feelings for, I turn very pessimistic and anxious. I find myself having panic attacks more than usual, and I cannot seem to calm down. I get very nervous very easily and I turn very negative. Could someone tell me how to help these problems?
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I have no idea what that's like, but there's someone stalking my posts who might be able to help you more than I.
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@Bob... Wtf? XD
@Casting... I had the same problems but then 1 of my friends just told me to think positive, if the voice says "She is cheating on you" you say "I know she won't do that" if you are sweating...eh well I don't know about that one but really try not to let those feelings rule you or else your relationship will be over before it even started
Try to let your mind off those thoughts, like eating or watching tv or playing games something, thats what I did until I could get to talk with my girlfriend then I usually would feel much better. But ofcourse in the end she ended up cheating on me and I can't figure out where I went wrong so I haven't dated ever since but thats another story
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Hello, I am the stalker bob spoke of.
I know exactly how you feel, commitment is freaky. But here's a couple of possible ways to deal with it (they worked for me so idk if they're work for you but it's worth a shot)
Start off small:
start with teeny commitments and work your way up: let's say a friendship bracelet. My friend gave us all one and it's been a couple months. when I first got it, I was freaking out because I am in fact so terrified of commitment that this little bracelet (symbolizing a commitment because you never take it off and what not) was scaring the daylights out of me. It's been two months. I haven't taken it off once and I'm more easy with it.
the second way (the one that'll probably be more relevent to your commitment issue) is to instead of focusing on what /could/ happen, focus on how much you love them and how much you're willing to make it work. (this only works if you REAAALLY like the person you're with)
And let them know how you feel. If they're understanding, they're worth the effort. Tell them it'll be something you need to ease into and what not, let them know your fears, etc.
You'll slowly start to feel at ease with the relationship if you don't jump into it head-on.
HOPE SOMETHING I POSTED HELPED. GOOD LUCK, BABE.
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