Are you doing too much?

Take this quiz to find out if your relationship with your husband/wife, girlfriend/boyfriend, or son/daughter is normal, if you're doing too much, or if you aren't doing enough.

If you are taking this about your son and you are his mother or daughter and you are her father, then please think about the results and talk to your son or daughter and his/her partner about this. If you are doing too much in a relationship with your son or daughter, and have been for awhile, it ups the chance that the person your son or daughter is in a relationship with or married to is not having their needs met. When a son/daughter gets used to mom/dad cooking for him/her all the time, cleaning up after him/her, and generally waiting on him/her so he/she has to do little or nothing for himself/herself he/she becomes lazy and expects his/her partner to treat him/her the same way. Talk to your son/daughter and their partner if you are doing too much. One visit per week is normal.

Created by: Vanessa and Charles
  1. What is your age?
  2. What is your gender?
  1. What kind of relationship is this?
  2. Do you think you are doing too much or too little?
  3. If you're the mother taking about son or father about daughter: What do when he/she has a fight with partner? Romantic: What do you do when you fight with this person?
  4. Do you live with the person you are taking this about or do they live with you?
  5. Mom/Dad for Son/Daughter: Does your son/daughters partner think you're too involved? Romantic: Do either of your friends think you are too involved
  6. Are you the emergency contact for this person and/or the person who makes their medical decisions if they are unconscious?
  7. Mom/Dad: Do you come first in their life? Romantic: Do you come first?
  8. Mom/Son or Father/Daughter: How often do you see your son/daughter? Romantic: How often does your partner see his/her mom/dad?
  9. Is he or she your best friend or are you his/her best friend?
  10. Do you have his/her friends numbers (at least one friend and/or all doc numbers?
  11. Mom/son or Dad/daughter: Has anyone called your son/daughter a mama's boy or daddys girl or accused you of being too close or of emotional incest? Romantic: Does he/she meet your needs?
  12. Do you clean up after him/her (if you live together or when you're at his/her place or when she/he is at your place)?
  13. Does the person you're taking this about clean up after you?
  14. If you live together are chores equal?
  15. Who puts more effort in the relationship?
  16. Do you put more into the relationship than you get out of it or get more out of it than you put in?
  17. Which one of you gives the other more presents, surprises, money, or other items?
  18. Mom/Son or Dad/Daughter: What would you say others think you treat your son/daughter as and what do you think you treat your son/daughter as
  19. Romantic only: Who picks what you do for dates and pays?
  20. Are there both physical and emotional boundaries in your relationship with this person that both of you (and your daughter/sons partner if you are mom/dad) are comfortable with?
  21. Mom/Son or Dad/Daughter: Do the two of you share clothes, do you give him/her clothing that belonged to you (or does he/she give you clothing that belonged to him/her), or have you seen him/her naked since he/she has been an adult?
  22. Do you do more for this person than he or she does for his or her self?
  23. Do you go to their doctor appointments with them (and go to the back with them when they actually see the doctor)?
  24. If he/she wants to do something and you want to do something else, which do you end up doing together?

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