Let's have a discussion about drama.
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Thread Topic: Let's have a discussion about drama.
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I have personally handled situations as a regular user. Whether or not I should do that is a totally different story, and I think that's up to personal opinion.
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Another thing we all need to keep in mind is that there are two sides to every coin. Same with an argument. That's essentially what causes an argument; one person feels one way, but another person feels a different way. We need to learn to respect that sometimes, just taking the time to understand each other's point of view can go a long way. We don't all have to agree 100% of the time.
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I’m gonna be honest, there really isn’t ‘another side of the coin’ in a situation where someone just completely blew up for the wrong reason.
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They put themself in a bad position by completely blowing up and no one has reason to defend them practically.
Like defending that person would be faking -
I believe you've misunderstood. There is drama where two people are having a disagreement, and then there is drama where someone is harassing or bullying another user. When I mention two sides, I'm talking about the first type. I would never condone someone blowing up at someone else.
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Oh gotcha
With the Cats argument thing, I’m gonna be honest here-
Cats DID blow up, because of a misunderstanding. That’s totally understandable, but the way that the rest of this site acted was really bad.
We made fun of her and didn’t try to solve anything, we gossiped, tried to lengthen the drama, and a lot of other bad things. -
Well, that's the point of this thread. I'm telling people that we need to stop doing that.
I don't want to really turn this into a discussion about a specific event, but I would like to refute your point. The last major blow-up, I (and multiple others) stepped in to explain to her what had gone wrong and what we believed she needed to improve on. I don't think anybody made fun of her. There was definitely gossip, but I know for a fact that several members of the community stepped in to try and resolve the conflict so Cats could grow as an individual. -
We made fun of her ‘list’
But yeah -
Oh, I honestly forgot about that. Yes, we definitely need to make sure that we don't do things like that. To anybody, not just her.
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I feel like alot of the userbase is aware that what Jill's saying is what they should be doing but when the drama is actually happening they just cant resist joining in and saying their piece. im definitely not exempt from that
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The only thing I would say is, it's okay if one or two people step in when a moderator isn't available, that's okay. But more than that, to me; is exessive.
If we could minimize the users getting into an argument/debate gone awry, it would be helpful. Just so we (the moderators) could handle the situation better. -
I agree with both of those statements, Jade.
Would anybody else like to add their thoughts? I'll probably bump this later on, but I wanted to check in -
I completely agree with the statements that have been made in this thread. Everyone needs to remember to handle situations civilly and fairly, and definitely do not butt in to someone else's business, especially without consent or being aware of the situation in the first place.
I think it makes everything so much easier to understand when we can discuss it, so thank you, Jill :) -
I think sometimes we need to think before we jump into arguments and drama.
Will my input help resolve this?
Why am I jumping into this?
Is this situation something which needs more people involved?
Should I contact a mod about this?
Is my message emotionally driven?
Is my message offensive and likely to offend something rather than get my point across? As in, am I mostly using insults and rude language?
Am I doing this because its what's going on in the forum, and I want to be involved as well?
Things like this which could sometimes make us rethink how we want to say things, or if it's worth jumping into things at all. I think we should all practice stepping back from situations when we notice our emotions beginning to boil over. To just step back and say "hey I'm getting overwhelmed here, can I revisit this when the situation has calmed down?" Etc etc -
^ and please guys.
reminder that minding your own business costs $0.00 and if it won’t matter at the point where you learn how to do your own taxes, D O N T E N G A G E
bc it also costs $0.00 to just not engage in something that won’t be heavy in your life anyways. it’s an act of violence against yourself to continuously carry on that way. do yourself a solid and keep it pushing.
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